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I just posted my similar problem awhile back and I think you may be the same person who said they felt the same way. If not, it doesn’t really matter. Anyway… Maybe we /should/ get off our high horses, but I don’t think we should have to drop our standards. There are few (if any) people where I live whom I can relate to and get along with also. I am an introvert though and I like it that way. I enjoy spending time by myself, but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy social interactions with like-minded people. How to go about finding like-minded people I am uncertain of and can’t give you any advice with, I’m afraid. Joining groups/taking up hobbies are great suggestions but it all depends on what you’re interested in. No point joining a sky-diving club if you’re afraid of heights. I guess you (and indeed myself) just have to remember you’re not the only one who feels this way and people like ourselves are out there- we’re just harder to find… Probably because we’re too busy hiding from the majority of the general public who irritate us so much ;)

Is there any way you can try to accept your life as it is today, and that it doesn’t mean it is/will be a flop? Accepting is a first step to getting rid of the anger. Regarding friends you don’t enjoy or relate to: may be life has placed these people around you to tell you something about yourself that you need to work on? There is nothing nicer than a person who makes the effort to fit in with everyone. Once you get to know people at a closer level you will find something you appreciate and enjoy about them. The experience can be very rewarding if you let it be. Take it as an opportunity for personal growth and remember nothing stays the same, different people will come and go in your life. Anyway, if this thought doesn’t excite you, would moving and starting afresh be an option?

[quote unknown101]I just posted my similar problem awhile back and I think you may be the same person who said they felt the same way.

Yes I think I probably am that person! I had come on here feeling the same kind of way and saw your post..

Moonlightsupper it is a contradiction but I do find I do or can get on with most people but mostly I find I have to compromise myself to get on with them.. I feel I live around many people who are very small minded and to be accepted where I live I must agree or pretend to agree! With them. If I have a different more liberal approach/view then I become an outsider, trouble.. different. It’s strange to be surrounded by people but to not be able to be a part of it. I have thought of moving for a long time and I still might do it. I just haven’t got much money to move yet.. plus my family are here and I don’t know if I will like being apart from them.. although I have lived away from them before. Also I have a boyfriend here.. though things aren’t going too well right now.

PS Unknown101 I’m a bit like you too I do like spending time by myself too and am probably a bit of an introvert. I think it can be tiring for people like us to spend time with other people who have louder personalities who get a lot more attention. Those people can sometimes be such bores.. sometimes they’re bullies, sometimes misguided or show offs who think the sun shines out of their *****! It’s tiring to get on with those people and can drain so much energy! Maybe I sound jealous, but thats just why I prefer having quieter friends and spending time on my own rather than having to flatter someone elses ego constantly! Anyway yes it’s good to know there are other people around who do feel similar or the same way. Good luck to you in widening your endevours and thanks for replying :)