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You are welcome here.But realize that its part of human nature to argue.
And everyone has strong points of view they want to defend.
So you kind of have to expect this.

Differences of opinion do happen. And people tend to be more interested in defending their own viewpoints (often based on anything but facts or reason) than actually learning or progressing through discussion.

That’s probably why this site is mostly new people. Most older members tend to give up after a while.

-Seraph-

no, the posts of yours I have seen seem fine. There are obviously some real characters on here, that I’d sort of ignor or go along with because they are genuine personalities. There’s a lot of joking, but I have only had one really rude reply. Chill, but I’d stick to the aim of helping the person who asked the question and not getting into too much debate with the God speaks to me but you are a sinner, we are all just robots, i am needy so I want you to say anything to me, kind. Take questions seriously but realise even the person asking may not.

brunder.t wrote:

Seraph wrote:
Differences of opinion do happen. And people tend to be more interested in defending their own viewpoints (often based on anything but facts or reason) than actually learning or progressing through discussion.

That’s probably why this site is mostly new people. Most older members tend to give up after a while.

-Seraph-

Yes but sometimes a certain person’s method of arguing could be perceived as being blunt. And they shouldn’t be arguing if they can’t argue academically.

I disagree. I can be quite blunt yet still offer academic and factual responses. Are you saying that being tactful is becoming more rare?

-Seraph-

Seraph wrote:

brunder.t wrote:

Seraph wrote:
Differences of opinion do happen. And people tend to be more interested in defending their own viewpoints (often based on anything but facts or reason) than actually learning or progressing through discussion.

That’s probably why this site is mostly new people. Most older members tend to give up after a while.

-Seraph-

Yes but sometimes a certain person’s method of arguing could be perceived as being blunt. And they shouldn’t be arguing if they can’t argue academically.

I disagree. I can be quite blunt yet still offer academic and factual responses. Are you saying that being tactful is becoming more rare?

-Seraph-

Just to but in, sometimes people just don’t like being told succinctly an answer. A lot of my students complain that I am abrupt. My view is live with it. If you don’t want the answer don’t ask the question. LOL

don’t leave. I love debating, you get so much more out of what people type if it’s disagreeing with you. Better ideas spawn from the battle of words that happen on this site. STAY.

You’ll always find someone ready to argue something!

The key is to remember this: if your intentions are good and you believe your words may help… say them.

There are folks here who seem to love nothing but a good tiff online. Perhaps they see that as some form of stress-release, perhaps it’s just entertainment for them.. who knows.

Debating and arguing are not the same thing. If someone is unable to debate a topic with good manners, put over their point of view politely without belittling others or creating a scene, then frankly they aren’t worth debating with.

Have to disagree on the “mostly new members” thing Seraph… some of us old timers have seen it all before and just know not to bother with some things! Life is too short to hold grudges and with experience, you get to learn who’s just being bull-headed for the sake of it :o)

debates are just two people going about different way to try to find the truth. it’s good, don’t worry about it. :)