I have a long term relationship question.
Some of you know the troubles were dealing with and I don’t really have an update on that but I do have something troubling me. Yesterday I was cleaning out my old email and stumbled across a okcupid happy birthday to my spouse. I clicked it and logged in to find out that back in 2007 my spouse created a profile on okcupid which is a dating site. no detailed information but it did have age location MARRIED and what they were looking for which had specific age range and the account had their name but used a username m.s. had from WAY back and frankly it was obvious that m.s. had set it up. I was surprised but not too much since there was no activity. I decided to ask m.s. about it and they lied to me. at first they tried to ignore the conversation because I was texting and then later when I said something in person they denied making it, then said they must have just been goofing around but just didn’t remember and their story kept changing. first they had no idea then they were just goofing around. I’m no innocent I know that line and its a panicked “I never thought you would find out” lie. My spouse will never talk about things that their ashamed of or upset them so I can just forget about getting anywhere with this conversation but its really compromising my trust. My spouse gets very upset when I get paranoid about their behavior but without proof I can’t pin them down to make them talk about anything. anyway thats whats on my mind and I don’t know how to get it out of my head.
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