Conned out of £30,000!
Ok here’s the story. (I only found out about all this a week ago on 5/11/11)
My sister got with a new boyfriend last year and quickly became pregnant. Soon after, they got engaged on holiday in Turkey and he bought her a £900 ring.
Little did I know that he had talked my Mom into taking out a £14,000 loan for him saying he had a lump sum coming later in the year and would pay it off. She agreed and also opened an account for him in her name and gave him the card so he could get money paid into that account and use it to pay off the loan.
Soon the problems began to emerge, a VERY serious gambling addiction came to light.
They were struggling for money, he pawned her ring and gambled the money just 3 weeks after they got back. My sister even went to the shop and asked for milk saying she’d pay them back later so she could feed her son, she was heavily pregnant at the time too.
My Mom found out about the ring so the next day gave her £350 to get it back because she knew how upset she was over it. After she left, my sister called her in tears saying he took the envelope and ran out of the house.
Cutting this short, he has since stolen my Mom’s identity and taken out a further £14,000 of loans out in my Mom’s name. He was helping with decorating the house in January but Mom didn’t realise that the only reason he was helping was because he had ordered the loan paperwork as her and he wanted to be at the house in the morning when the post arrived.
He took my sisters key and went to the house while Mom was at work and he claimed these loans, forging her signature PERFECTLY, he also went through her paperwork and discovered she has an isa account and he emptied that of £1,500.
All of these loans and transfers were paid into the account in my Mom’s name for which she had given him the card to use.
My sister smashed the laptop in a rage when he was using it to gamble, there is no money, nothing to show at all.
He even stopped my Mom seeing the kids and my sister went along with it because she’s so scared that he’ll go out and gamble again and make things worse.
We live Near Wolverhampton and he’s moved them all up to Northampton far away, we’re totally cut off from them now.
Mom got a court order the other day so she called the police, she said now that she is liable she can’t cover for him no matter how my sister feels about it, but the banks have said she broke the banking code by giving him the card in the first place and even if we do prove all of the frauds he’s committed she still took the first loan out in her name.
She’s 57 years old, works with stroke patients every day, never taken a loan out, always been amazing with money, managed to save, there’s no mortgage and just before retirement she loses EVERYTHING she’s ever worked for. We’re probably going to be forced to sell the house to pay off the loans and move into a motorhome.
Let’s just say I cannot cope with this, I feel suicidal over it. What are we supposed to do? We never asked for this, we’ve been through so much suffering, it feel like our family is cursed. I’ve not long been released from jail for a crime I didn’t commit, how much more can this family take? I’m on the edge here.
Before anybody starts saying how stupid my Mom was to agree to the loan and to keep her mouth shut once she found out about the identity fraud, or how stupid my sister is for staying with this guy, knowing where to point the finger is not the advice I’m looking for, I know the mistakes that they made but focussing on that isn’t gonna help me find a solution here, they’ve been emotionally conned through all this and it obviously ran very quickly out of their control and didn’t know what to do for the best.
Are there any solutions out there? Or is this it, is this what’s gonna happen?
PLEASE HELP - - - DESPERATE - - -
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