relationship help: I am something of a lonely person.

Psych'n'AI

I am something of a lonely person.

I’ve lived all over the place, and the past few years have been particularly transient. I changed primary residence four times in the past year, and completely changed my entire career path, as well as having to redefine myself because of it. It’s left me in a weird place that very few people ever visit, where I have a degree, I’m pursuing another completely unrelated degree without having ever much used the first, it’s going to probably end up taking me three or four more years of college to get through this, and all the while I don’t quite fit in with any group around me.

Which is alright, I’m used to not being quite like the people around me. I don’t know if there actually is no-one else out there with my experiences and attitudes, but I certainly can’t find many of them. I finally, for one of the first if not the first time, have a single friend who I actually feel I can discuss just about anything with, but even that friendship has tensions because he’s probably leaving the country in about a year, and he’s friends with one of my ex girlfriends (who I have no problems with, but I do prefer to leave the past in the past).

I also have no outlet for my need for touch. I like to cuddle, I like to be loving, I like to sit around at midnight chatting about whatever crosses my mind. The little joys of relationships are something I’ve learned to love and miss when I’m single, which tends to be for months - or sometimes over a year - at a time. It isn’t so much that I need a relationship to be a happy person, I have interests, activities, and goals that keep

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Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (8 minutes after post)

what r u asking actually? dont get.

bigcitylosangele 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

your asking for help but ur still putting up ur guard. thats how i felt when i read ur post

Nmm29 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (20 minutes after post)

I’m in a completly unrelated situation, but I feel exactly the same because of it. Truthfully, I don’t have a single friend in the world I could tell a problem I’m having to without them joking or making fun of it, and so I can’t even form an emotional bond between ‘friends’ or mine, or assossiats. If you’d like, I would gladly be here to talk if that’s what you want right now :)

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Psych'n'AI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (26 minutes after post)

yea, not even sure exactly myself what I’m asking… just felt like putting my thoughts out there to hear thoughts from others on. And my guard is always up, it happens when you’ve been through hell. It’s not an impossible wall though, just a guard, I do let people in sometimes. I’m probably about as well adjusted as one could hope given my life. I just feel like crying some nights because I kinda look at the bachelors degree I got and feel like I wasted three years, thousands of dollars, and huge amounts of loan money on something that I shouldn’t have, because I didn’t know what I wanted, and now in order to amend the situation I’m going to have to work my *** off… just a little bit dysphoric I guess, so I felt like seeing what others had to say about it.

bigcitylosangele 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (31 minutes after post)

it could be worst u could be me lol. 25 no job still living at home in a garage

Psych'n'AI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

I definitely don’t think it’s rock bottom, life can always get worse, but it’s hard for me to mentally cope with sometimes.

blackbook668 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Why is your life so moving about all the time?

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Nmm29 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 hours, 21 minutes after post)

If there’s one thing I learned everyone copes with a situation differently. There are plenty of ways of coping, healthy and unhealthy. I personally cope by disenabling myself to make any emotional connections. All I have are opinions towards people but no strait forward judgment or bond, good or bad. I’ve onlymade one emotional connection and that’s to a girl I’m pretty sure I’m in love with :) how do you cope?

Help me with: I’ve been having trouble breathing recently.

blackbook668 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (10 hours, 56 minutes after post)

I cope with music. And reading.

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Psych'n'AI 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (11 hours, 24 minutes after post)

I’ve moved so much recently mostly because of college and an inability to figure out what I want in life. I should be where I am not though for at least three years.

I tend to cope by finding new things to do and learn. As I like to say, my hobby is finding new hobbies :P

blackbook668 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (13 hours, 6 minutes after post)

You shouldn’t move around so much. Moving around is the choice you make and I think it may be the wrong one. Especially if it is getting in the way of you making connections. And you do seem, even from the one friendship you have, to make the connections no problem if you were given time. I say stick with a college where your gonna stay in one place and settle down in an area. Make the time to make friends. A lonely life on the move is not a good way to live.

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