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My wife left me for another man, and she hates me?
I honestly thought I was a good husband. A good father. She had a restraining order waiting for me when I won visitation rights to see my daughter. Luckily I wasn’t within 600 km of her house at the time she accused me of throwing a half brick through her window. She tried everything to break my soul. She enjoys my pain. A mutual friend says she gets off on “getting” me. I don’t understand… (A small voice cries into the darkness. Please help.)
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I don’t know. We were married for 5 years. Had a beautiful baby girl. Everything was going ok. No stresses. Financials or otherwise. One day she was catty. She picks a fight with me. She goes to bed and the next morning she tells me to get out of out home. Since then I found out she has been seeing someone else. She has been spreading stories about abuse. She has had cops knocking at my door. I have to have a 24 hour alibi just to keep from getting arrested. Her mom is clued up in law (Divorced 4 times) and between the two they have come up with many interesting ways in “getting” me…
Then I loose out on seeing my baby girl.
For all she is or has done to me, she is a good mom. The guy is ok. Had him checked out. He seems to be an honest to goodness nice guy. Slightly worried about his drinking but he is a mellow drinker. (Goes to sleep). My baby is being looked after. Just wish I knew why the resentment…
this sh!t is screwed up. been two years and I still can’t get over it……………….
Tried. Even set up counselling sessions. She just never pitched. What makes it worse I am a cop. working in forensics. She almost cost me my job. Said I threatened her with a gun from work, and I know how to make evidence disappear. lol?
He tried. She tried to force him to take sides. When he wouldn’t, she then threw him out of her flat…
I know my job. Everything is checked and double checked. It is a scientific field and it is almost impossible to screw with the system. She doesn’t know our protocols and to anyone in the field her allegations are a joke. Thing is, all has to be investigated, just in case I am a maniac. I have been lucky so far.
2 years already.
Gonna crash now. Big day tomorrow.
In your darkest hour may you find light
In your weakest hour may you find strength
In your loneliest hour may you find friendship
And in your time of need, may you find God
All I can say is you might want to think about seeking legal help, at least legal advice to see what your options are. From the sound of it this may fall under harassment.
What I don’t understand is why do you continue to be on the receiving end of this bullshit? I have been married for 28 years and as you can imagine ,there have been ups and downs. Those ups and downs have to do with health problems which caused everyday stresses between my wife and myself. We got past it all because we love each other.
You mentioned that you are a cop and you are in forensics so you know about evidence. Filing a false police report is a crime. Why don’t you trap her in her own web? Turn the tables . And her “nice guy” boyfriend, that sleazy piece of trash ,what about him? Put the pressure on him and he will fold up like a cardboard
suitcase. Make her life as miserable as she is making yours. Be smart as you are now with your 24 hr. alibi and let the fun begin.
and another thing, as you probably know, she was having the affair before she told you to leave. Mommy dearest was coaching her on how to get you to look like the bad guy so she acts “catty” and picks a fight with you for show. You are confused and shocked . Her mom is a 4 time loser so she had the complete playbook to thumb through.
You are not the bad guy here,defend yourself!
My husband think watching teengirls in shorts and wearing no bras underneath their white shirts is fine - I hate him for that. If your dear wife ever known You do that I assume she wants your life to be a miserable one. In that case You might have to not only to apologize, but never be around such a girl whether she is with Your drunk “pisshead”( prisoner )or not - and that might be impossible when You are a policeman. Or perhaps Your wife is selfish.
Are you responding to the wrong post or are you on the wrong planet?
“watching teengirls in shorts and wearing no bras underneath their white shirts”???
Where did you get that from?
Just like to say to all, thanks for the support. Got some surprising advice from a Captain friend which worked. When your wife leaves you for another man, make friends with that man. Then everytime she tries something, talk to him ‘man to man’.
Within about a week, all crap stopped. Everytime she tries something, a quick phone call to my mate, and its sorted. It must really eat on her to know her ex husband, and her current husband are best mates lol. Whats worse, he now comes to me for advice on how to handle her.
Life is ironic. She left me for money. To cope with the loss, I threw myself at my work. Now several promotions later, I’m head of my dept, and earning more than both of them put together. Its gotten to the point where I have to overlook her flirting. Man acting dumb is fun. To all those sitting in a similar boat, hang in there. Pray for strength and guidance. In the short term it may be unbearable. But hang in there. By His Grace, it’ll work out
I don’t know for sure, but I think your situation is alot like mine. Keep real friends close, and Family. This sucks for us Men, that feel we did our best and loved our Kids. Stay strong, and if you need to chat, you can email me at i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>.
I really dont know cos i am in that stage now and today its almost 2 yrs she is not with me i put so many efforts to be with her. Three years i was with her now suddenly she forgotten me. I would say pl dont trust ladies, i am almost screwed my life and i dont know what will happen to me. I am praying to god please give me one lady who can under stand me and never leave me for life long.because i need some one
inspiration thanks for this!
sometimes a female may find something that they think is better on the other side and in time they find that what they had was the best thing for them and never know how to just say they made a mistake. When ever a feamle tends to try and put you in jail leave them and run for you life as that is only the start for more drama.
Love takes over no matter what you have going on in your life. Marcus proved that to me. My husband had so much going on that he had forgotten what was important. Thank you for saving my marriage, and my family.Dr Chucks,your spell worked for me my husband is back home and we both are so mush in love now thank you Dr chucks contact via email: i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>.
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