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Dilemma.

I’ve recently realized that I’ve fallen hard for my boyfriend, and I have applied to my dream university provinces away. A little back up information, I largely ****** up my relationship, actually yesterday, too much to drink led to kissing another guy in the bar, which I have no memory of (I am going from what people are telling me). My boyfriend and I are currently getting through this and the thought of losing him makes me sick. I’ve begged him to take me back, and promised to never hurt him.

Would going away make me a terrible person? Could long distance work, if by chance I get in? Is it inevitable that I am going to break his heart again?

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Dilemma. I’ve recently realized that I’ve fallen hard for my boyfriend, and I have applied to my dream university provinces away. A little back up information, I largely ****** up my relationship, actually yesterday, too much to drink led to kissing another guy in the bar, which I have no memory of (I am going from what people are telling me). My boyfriend and I are currently getting through this and the thought of losing him makes me sick. I’ve begged him to take me back, and promised to never hurt him.

Would going away make me a terrible person? Could long distance work, if by chance I get in? Is it inevitable that I am going to break his heart again?

Anonymous edited this post 1 year, 6 months ago. Read the previous text »

Dilemma. I’ve recently realized that I’ve fallen hard for my boyfriend, and I have applied to my dream university provinces away. A little back up information, I largely ****** up my relationship, actually yesterday, too much to drink led to kissing another guy in the bar, which I have no memory of (I am going from what people are telling me). My boyfriend and I are currently getting through this and the thought of losing him makes me sick. I’ve begged him to take me back, and promised to never hurt him.

Would going away make me a terrible person? Could long distance work, if by chance I get in? Is it inevitable that I am going to break his heart again?

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jefiner_0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (26 minutes after post)

I think that if you don’t drink that much ever anymore, that you will survive through it. If you guys truly love each other, than you will be fine with your relationship. I’m away from my guy alot for 2 years (because we’re at different schools) and we’re still fine. We had a hard time right before we left. We actually broke up but decided we wanted to be with one another, so we got together again. Besides, now adays you can get in touch with each other many ways and so you guys can video chat and stuff. It works well, but never lie to him. That always starts to deteriorate trust and if you don’t have trust, the relationship won’t last.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (52 minutes after post)

If you are accepted, going away doesn’t make you a horrible person. If it’s meant to be things will work itself out in the end. The important thing is to know who you are, what you want in life, the education you desire and find out does this kind of thing happens every time you are under influence

Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 30 minutes after post)

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Arienna 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

Anonymous wrote:
If you are accepted, going away doesn’t make you a horrible person. If it’s meant to be things will work itself out in the end. The important thing is to know who you are, what you want in life, the education you desire and find out does this kind of thing happens every time you are under influence

He knows going to this university is my dream, and last night we talked about it and he said he couldn’t handle staying in a relationship with me if I moved away. My thoughts are if we are ment to be, some how things will fall into place, whereas he is more practical
And likes to plan in advance and know what to expect in the future. The thing is, I promised I would never hurt him like that again.. If I stay with him with the chance that I might move away next september, am I just going to hurt him in the long run?

Help me with: Ryerson or Carleton University?

Lost nocturnal 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 days after post)

It is a question that you have to answer yourself. Going there is your dream, how would you feel if you are accepted and you decide to turn down your dream? Would you be happy? Would you become resentful later on by giving up this dream?

Is he planning to marry you and support you for the rest of your life, for you to give up your dream? Maybe his dreams are different than yours but ask him about an equally hard question to choose between his life long dream and someone who thinks long distance wouldn’t work with the right person. He is asking you to give up your dream to be with him, and you are not engage planning to or otherwise getting married, why is that?

When someone loves someone, they ultimately will make choices which ensure their partner is happy. Do you think he is doing that? Or is he keeping you around until the bigger and better thing?

The truth is being in a relationship is going to hurt somewhere down the road with disagreements, conflicts or incompatibility. You are entering university there is still a long life ahead of you and a lot of things to try and people to meet.
I hope this helps!

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