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I have gone through a lot with my friends this past year.

They always look to me for advice with guys. But, sometimes I just really don’t like the guy that they are dating at the time, so I honestly tell them how I feel. They always get made after I do this. But, each time they come back to me for advice. Should I stop telling them advice because I know that it will hurt them or should I keep telling them how I feel honestly?

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Love to Laugh offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (2 minutes after post)

keep telling them how you honestly feel. ya they may get mad at you but they will get over it and it is your opinion and they ask for it and they want to know what YOU think. that is why they are going to you.

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Mei Eishi offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 9 months ago (22 minutes after post)

dont stop being honest, and dont stop giving advice either. they are asking you because you are honest with them and they want your opinion on if it will ever work out. its hard to see them get mad at you for telling them what they may not want to hear but it is essential that they know that you are just being honest with them.

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allycat173 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
US | 2 years, 9 months ago (7 hours, 2 minutes after post)

if your not honest to your friends it will come back to u in the end. undoubted after they break up with their guys theyll be mad that nobady warned them what a loser he was. tell them how u feel cuz us girls have to stick together.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

They aren’t looking for advice, they’re looking for validation. If your friends have bad taste, they dont want to know, they want to be encouraged. They come to you for emotional support and you insult them. No wonder they get mad.

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Mei Eishi offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

no, johnn you are wrong. if they are real friends, they will appreciate the truth much more than you making them feel better. im not saying that you should be really harsh on them but dont lie to make them feel better. let them know what is up and that you are there for them.

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