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Nothing has my vote.

If you felt nothing at all you wouldn’t know how to feel anything. you would be an outcast of your own accord. the idea of a never ending sorrow does however mean that you can feel something so when it ends or it passes the better feelings take place and can make you feel higher than any energy we as humans can try to describe. i’d rather be sad and sorrowful and try to take meds or go to a doctor or just give it time and be able to be happy or have humor again as opposed to never having the chance or choice.

Feeling nothing sucks… At least you know you’re still human when you feel sorrow.

renegadeoflif wrote:
If you felt nothing at all you wouldn’t know how to feel anything. you would be an outcast of your own accord. the idea of a never ending sorrow does however mean that you can feel something so when it ends or it passes the better feelings take place and can make you feel higher than any energy we as humans can try to describe. i’d rather be sad and sorrowful and try to take meds or go to a doctor or just give it time and be able to be happy or have humor again as opposed to never having the chance or choice.

Chance and choice are interesting concepts but who wants to be sad when those show themselves to be only false hopes. At least with nothing you know where you stand!

do you? if you feel nothing would you know what you’re missing or not missing?

renegadeoflif wrote:
do you? if you feel nothing would you know what you’re missing or not missing?

That is my point. Ignorance to pain is bliss. Why open up? Why care? Why need?
Best not to do any of those things and find comfort knowing there isn’t any.
Missing? Who misses getting hurt?

thats just being an incomplete human, something closer to a machine which if you’re fine with being then hey whatever works. Most people though can’t go for long without some form or emotion.

@Anonymous, Why would you want to go throughout life that way? That isn’t bliss at all, it’s torture really.

High Expectations wrote:
@Anonymous, Why would you want to go throughout life that way? That isn’t bliss at all, it’s torture really.

renegadeoflif wrote:
thats just being an incomplete human, something closer to a machine which if you’re fine with being then hey whatever works. Most people though can’t go for long without some form or emotion.

We all have a cross to bare.

Torture? What is worse, letting others hurt you or deciding not to let them?

Well, with life you still have the opportunity to change things. With nothing you have nothing. They give pedophiles drugs that cut off their emotions…

Anonymous wrote:
Well, with life you still have the opportunity to change things. With nothing you have nothing. They give pedophiles drugs that cut off their emotions…

So you would choose to be sad forever over letting go?!

Anonymous wrote:
Torture? What is worse, letting others hurt you or deciding not to let them?

Letting people hurt you is a choice, at that point you would have chosen to feel sorrow by allowing people to hurt you. But, cutting yourself off from the entire human race just because you’re afraid of being hurt/feel sorrow, really hinders you, can you not see that? You’re really just holding yourself back. Set yourself free, don’t hold yourself accountable for others’ actions. Don’t allow other peoples mistakes make you unhappy.

High Expectations wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Torture? What is worse, letting others hurt you or deciding not to let them?

Letting people hurt you is a choice, at that point you would have chosen to feel sorrow by allowing people to hurt you. But, cutting yourself off from the entire human race just because you’re afraid of being hurt/feel sorrow, really hinders you, can you not see that? You’re really just holding yourself back. Set yourself free, don’t hold yourself accountable for others’ actions. Don’t allow other peoples mistakes make you unhappy.

I see your point but no matter the choices, all is not up to us. Sometimes you run out of tears. Sometimes you have to let go of everything and stop. Perhaps there is freedom in nothing too.

nebula, wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
So you would choose to be sad forever over letting go?!

I don’t think anyone can properly answer this unless they have experienced both extreme sorrow and complete lack of emotion, for extended amounts of time each. I can say that the lack of emotion is, in a seemingly contradictory sense, very frightening.

It is difficult to explain… Hmm.

I think both are frightening and hard to explain. Good post though. Do you have an answer to your question? Do you think one better over the other??

Anonymous wrote:

High Expectations wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Torture? What is worse, letting others hurt you or deciding not to let them?

Letting people hurt you is a choice, at that point you would have chosen to feel sorrow by allowing people to hurt you. But, cutting yourself off from the entire human race just because you’re afraid of being hurt/feel sorrow, really hinders you, can you not see that? You’re really just holding yourself back. Set yourself free, don’t hold yourself accountable for others’ actions. Don’t allow other peoples mistakes make you unhappy.

I see your point but no matter the choices, all is not up to us. Sometimes you run out of tears. Sometimes you have to let go of everything and stop. Perhaps there is freedom in nothing too.

That’s not called feeling nothing, that’s called letting go of what you can’t control.

High Expectations wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

High Expectations wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Torture? What is worse, letting others hurt you or deciding not to let them?

Letting people hurt you is a choice, at that point you would have chosen to feel sorrow by allowing people to hurt you. But, cutting yourself off from the entire human race just because you’re afraid of being hurt/feel sorrow, really hinders you, can you not see that? You’re really just holding yourself back. Set yourself free, don’t hold yourself accountable for others’ actions. Don’t allow other peoples mistakes make you unhappy.

I see your point but no matter the choices, all is not up to us. Sometimes you run out of tears. Sometimes you have to let go of everything and stop. Perhaps there is freedom in nothing too.

That’s not called feeling nothing, that’s called letting go of what you can’t control.

And when you let go and you decide to never feel that way again. When you stop letting people in and run for cover in nothing… Is that control in something or embracing nothing?
My answer to the op stands. I would rather feel nothing.

Refer to my previous answer… I think that answer, answers what you just said as well as what I’m about to say. In any case, when you let go of the pain/sorrow wouldn’t you feel relieved/rejuvenated, or happy rather than feeling nothing?

Sorry. I got distracted. Yes- I’ve experienced extreme pain and sorrow for long periods of time… But I was also hopeful. ‘things WILL get better’

no sorrow lasts forever.

really feeling nothing at all is the same as feeling a never ending sorrow.

Write a song about your sorrow and make a cool million…

I should think I’d rather feel something than nothing at all, even it is a never-ending sorrow.

I’d rather feel nothing at all. neutral is better than bad. it’s like asking if you’d rather lay in a bath of water or lay in a bath of acid.

if it hurts, dont do it.

depends on the type and degree of sorrow. its like asking if you’d rather live in a crappy world as a human or a machine. as a machine you would feel nothing, but you would loose your humanity.

Sorrow over nothing all the way, for the reasons everyone else has said. When you have sorrow, you have something. You have something to work to improve, and you know you’re still alive. When you feel nothing, it’s not like you’ve let go of whatever hurt you, because if you had let go, you would move on to become happier. If you don’t become happier but instead become numb, then the hurt moreso takes away your ability to feel. For example, I was depressed for a long time, and had physical pain as well as emotional. Then once the pain lasted long enough it was all I felt. After that, the physical pain went away, as I was recovering from surgery, and I was left feeling nothing. I felt inhuman, and wanted to feel, so I burned myself.. So my vote is for sorrow, because nothingness really sucks. Just my two cents.

You can get over sorrow but feeling nothing is generally a clinical diagnosis and not a choice. I don’t think one can not feel. Making a choice to shut down isn’t not feeling-it’s stuffing which can be very harmful to your mental and physical well-being.

Neither. It doesn’t have to be either of those things. Choose to be happy, or content at the least. If there is something in your life you don’t like, change it. Don’t sit around wishing someone would come rescue you or have a little pity party. Take charge of your own life and change something

I choose to feel both. As well as other things.

If I had to choose between a life of inescapable sorrow or no emotions at all, there wouldn’t really be a choice. No emotions. A life of sorrow would be too heavy a burdon to bear.

Pain is temporary, love is forever, don’t make it the other way around.

I search for attitude quote and than I got a attitude quote may be it will change something for him/her ;

big> big>Smile when it hurts most. /big> /big>

A change in attitude can change your life!

sorry bout that guy ‘^^^^ will somebody untie him, and get him a bone……

Anonymous wrote:
sorry bout that guy ‘^^^^ will somebody untie him, and get him a bone……

Anonymous :D

surely feeling nothing is feeling something? somebody up the top said feeling nothing sucks surely that means you are experiencing something? I don’t really know how to answer the question because I tried to imagine what feeling nothing would feel like but I couldn’t because you would still be feeling something, even it was feeling nothing.

he’s a nihilist made up in his mind, nothing is the purpose. best thing to do is make something out of nothing.. build a birdhouse or such.

nebula, I thought you was a dude, and now have to recalibrate..Your a beautiful women…

Anonymous wrote:
surely feeling nothing is feeling something? somebody up the top said feeling nothing sucks surely that means you are experiencing something? I don’t really know how to answer the question because I tried to imagine what feeling nothing would feel like but I couldn’t because you would still be feeling something, even it was feeling nothing.

Not sure if you were referring to me, but feeling nothing is hard to think about until you’ve experienced it. I spent a lot of time staring into empty space with no care or motivation to do anything. Whenever I got a good grade in school or won in sports, I didn’t care. Everything seemed meaningless and pointless.