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I’m in bad shape right now
I lost my job today when I came home my wife was gone along with my kids and the dog she left me a note saying she went to live with a guy she was cheating on me with and the kids were going to live with her parents for a little bit until she finds a house or apartment so right now I’m sitting in my living room with a bottle of jack daniels and And my 357. I don’t know what to do
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Oh that really sucks I don’t know what to say besides I feel sorry for you
with all due respect you got to first pull yourself together before anything else. if she left it’s for a reason, do you still love her or would you let her stay witht the new person. if you still love your family work for it, show them that your a person worth living with and convince them to come back home. this is a complicated situation as you can’t exactly go over and say “hi there, my wife is living with you may I come in for a friendly conversation” so maybe call her if she has a cell phone or meet her somewhere. pretty much you have to work things out if you want things to be right.
look on the bright side. you can be a bachelor again! all the doors are open and no one to limit you in the things you love to do on your own.
on another point of view, you now have the time that is meant for “licking the wounds”. close in on yourself and do thinking. a lot of it. not on what others have done, but on what you should change in yourself - for yourself. others are more easily forgiven, it is ourselves we find it hard to live with.
so - now you are judging yourself. so stop.
and forgive yourself for judging yourself.
what matters is the future.
times change, winds change, even the hardest rocks are blown to dust in the winds of time. and thus we must move on and change ourselves along with everything else.
right now you are probably struck in pain, and it is hard to think straight.
rest is the best to let you start a positive path.
so eat, drink (not alcohol), and go to sleep. even if i is noon.
don’t loose your senses as you would need them to make the right decisions.
don’t make any sudden movements, as you would probably cause more damage that you will be sorry for later. proceed with caution.
(i like to analogue this to a rock luring on a steep hill over your house,
the thought of it rolling down on the house cause more problems than the rock itself.
you might go and surround it, sleepless, circling it, pulling your hairs out, without sleep, without eating, banging your head against the wall, while the rock actually does nothing at all.
eventually the worrying may cause you to make a sudden movement, trying to push the rock, here or there, or kicking it, or whatever, which actually may be the only thing it needed to trigger it rolling over the house.
when you stop for a moment and look at it from the side, you realize, the best thing to do is just to leave the rock, and move on.)
and if the rock already rolled, and the house smashed…
you can either, slowly and determinedly roll it off the house and start rebuilding.
or you just move to a new house, a new path, a new life.
banging your head on the rock, wouldn’t do anything except for giving you a headache.
Please don’t do anything rash!!! Talk to someone, you can get help and work through this. I know things seem horrible right now, and you may feel that there’s nothing left for you, but that’s not true. Life is a gift, and the opportunity to make it better is always there.
Three years ago my mother lost her job. She had been raising my brother and me on her own for 10 years at this point, and we normally just made by on the bills. We were all terrified. The whole situation felt far too similar to the way things were 10 years ago when my father left- no money for groceries, fighting with the bank, trying to keep a brave face for everyone else in the family while your really terrified inside- things seemed hopeless. Then something wonderful happened by pure chance- my mom was talking to a friend who works as a nanny and happened to know a family who was looking for regular childcare. She introduced my mom, and got her the job. Since then my mother has made connections in the neighborhood and started up her own business and it has taken off! Not only are we making the bills, but my mother is happier in this job than I ever remember her being in her old one. She comes home every day with stories to tell about the kids she works with, and has practically been adopted into this community. It is absolutely wonderful.
I’m not particularly religious myself, but I do love movie quotes, and this one is a particular favorite of mine: “When the Lord closes a door. . .
. . .somewhere He opens a window.”
Life never leaves you without any options, sometimes you just have to look hard, and give some trust to find them. A window will show up for you if you search for it, and things will get better. You children love you- my father and I haven’t always gotten along, but I have always loved him through all the ups and downs and have never questioned that fact. They need you in their lives.
Please, talk to someone, reach out for help. Admitting you need it is the hardest step, but it is the most important. No one can go through something like this alone. Know that you are in my thoughts, whoever you are, and I hope that you can make it through this and once again find the good in life- it is there, I promise.
I don’t know what to say besides I feel sorry for you
everything will be ok!
what to do? troll somewhere else. One day your problems will be real …
This guy who posted said the guy who posted this is a jerk you shouldn’t say things aren’t real or he’s faking you don’t know that person
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