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You could be depressed or maybe since you were a clever student you just found school work boring, unchallenging and meaningless. Decide your priorities in life, think about the consequences of your choices and live with them.

OMGG I FEEL LIKE I WROTE THIS A YEAR AGO! AHHAHAHA…. i know exactly what youre going through! I was stuck taking intermediate algebra and dropping it like 3 times and failed it twice! But guess what? I took it this summer and passed! i know how you feel…you feel like life is stuck in a rut…you want to desperately move forward but you cant! I KNOW THE FEELING IVE BEEN THERE! well if i could go back and give myself advice, this is what i would say….STOP WASTING TIME STUDY YOUR *** OFF AND TRY AS HARD AS YOU CAN TO PASS! you already have a C+ right? thats good enough! Keep moving forward! talk to the prof, tell them your situation, tell them you really need to pass this class, just get them to notice you, and when theyre grading theyll most liekly remember youy and give you a little bump. dont worry you can do this! just black everything out and get your sh** straight. study your butt off, and make sure you let your prof know youre serious about passing the class and not screwing around. and dont worry its just a class, in teh end you can always retake it right? it wont even count towards your transfer transcript, HOWEVER, you still need to pass it, and you can. They really need to change up the system, i know a lot of people that went through hell bc of the stupid math reqs….dont worry your not alone, and you can and will overcome this! GOOD LUCK BB!

Have you ever looked around and trully noticed how many young people with good minds can not even hope to go to college? They don’t have a chance but if they did that they would trully RESPECT the opportunity to go there.

Your just in a “I don’t give a DDAAMMNN state.”

My advice is to make each day count. Be present in your life and do the best you can. Get up each day and have some pride in yourself and the work you do. Don’t let this opportunity go by with an attitude “I barely got through college by the skin of my teeth.” Try to get through with honors.
It isn’t hard at all to let things slide as you already know.

Sodapop wrote:
OMGG I FEEL LIKE I WROTE THIS A YEAR AGO! AHHAHAHA…. i know exactly what youre going through! I was stuck taking intermediate algebra and dropping it like 3 times and failed it twice! But guess what? I took it this summer and passed! i know how you feel…you feel like life is stuck in a rut…you want to desperately move forward but you cant! I KNOW THE FEELING IVE BEEN THERE! well if i could go back and give myself advice, this is what i would say….STOP WASTING TIME STUDY YOUR *** OFF AND TRY AS HARD AS YOU CAN TO PASS! you already have a C+ right? thats good enough! Keep moving forward! talk to the prof, tell them your situation, tell them you really need to pass this class, just get them to notice you, and when theyre grading theyll most liekly remember youy and give you a little bump. dont worry you can do this! just black everything out and get your sh** straight. study your butt off, and make sure you let your prof know youre serious about passing the class and not screwing around. and dont worry its just a class, in teh end you can always retake it right? it wont even count towards your transfer transcript, HOWEVER, you still need to pass it, and you can. They really need to change up the system, i know a lot of people that went through hell bc of the stupid math reqs….dont worry your not alone, and you can and will overcome this! GOOD LUCK BB!

Thank you Sodapop =), over the last 2 times taking it I have talked to the prof, gotten help, she does notice me, so I have a good base there. To be honest, right now, I know if I study from now till then I might be okay. My immediate fear is that these bad habits, not gettting things done, and just goofing off, will change my life in a bad way, as they already have. I only want to be a responsible, bloody good person !?! you know, ? yes you do =). but there is so much I need to do, and I despair of getting ANYTHING done. How can I fix this when my mind says one thing and my body does the exact opposite? its like a bloody addiction..

and i know you may feel like all your potential is going to wast bc of a stupid math class. Its not, its just the vicious cycle of community college. One block in the road and you’re set way back, and forced to waste your time with all these general ed reqs. dont worry, itll get better…you just gotta overcome this obstacle. and i repeat DONT WASTE YOUR TIME!

Tymbus wrote:
You could be depressed or maybe since you were a clever student you just found school work boring, unchallenging and meaningless. Decide your priorities in life, think about the consequences of your choices and live with them.

I doubt I’m clinically depressed, but thank you so much for replying Tymbus. it isn’t simply boredom, its more of lack of motivation, even though I have it? its almost laziness and despair.

Anonymous wrote:
Have you ever looked around and trully noticed how many young people with good minds can not even hope to go to college? They don’t have a chance but if they did that they would trully RESPECT the opportunity to go there.

Your just in a “I don’t give a DDAAMMNN state.”

My advice is to make each day count. Be present in your life and do the best you can. Get up each day and have some pride in yourself and the work you do. Don’t let this opportunity go by with an attitude “I barely got through college by the skin of my teeth.” Try to get through with honors.
It isn’t hard at all to let things slide as you already know.

you are absolutely right.
I feel bad. I really do, because in all honesty, I have been given Everything. Every opportunity (well…sorta). I understand how truly blessed and how much of a gift I’ve been given. I do give a ****. I give more than a **** bro. I….I’m just having trouble getting with the pprogram. How do I get myself to DO That?

Sodapop wrote:
and i know you may feel like all your potential is going to wast bc of a stupid math class. Its not, its just the vicious cycle of community college. One block in the road and you’re set way back, and forced to waste your time with all these general ed reqs. dont worry, itll get better…you just gotta overcome this obstacle. and i repeat DONT WASTE YOUR TIME!

I don’t see the gen. ed. as a waste. I see it as a way to learn new things…including study habits. I just,…I guess I’m just not doing that right now?

how did you do it?
and are you…well obviously not “perfect” now but do you still have huge issues with these things now in your life?

OMG- are you my long lost twin? It certainly feels so. I’m actually supposed to be doing something right now but i’m procrastinating lmao. Yeah, i know what you mean, and it SUCKS. I think it may be a slight form of ADD. I havent been formally diagnosed but it certainly feels like it. that, and lack of motivation….and… the lack of motivation came from all those years lost at CC bc of ****** MATH. But i say, if i can do you YOU CAN DO IT! i’m taking stats now, and i got into a school this spring so i’ll be transferring :) it feels really good. And thats gonna happen to you too, and youll be taking the classes you want, working out more, and getting yourself on teh right track…instead of being a lazy slob waking up at 12pm every day and wandering around aimlessly continuously wasting more and more time haha

Sodapop wrote:
OMG- are you my long lost twin? It certainly feels so. I’m actually supposed to be doing something right now but i’m procrastinating lmao. Yeah, i know what you mean, and it SUCKS. I think it may be a slight form of ADD. I havent been formally diagnosed but it certainly feels like it. that, and lack of motivation….and… the lack of motivation came from all those years lost at CC bc of ****** MATH. But i say, if i can do you YOU CAN DO IT! i’m taking stats now, and i got into a school this spring so i’ll be transferring :) it feels really good. And thats gonna happen to you too, and youll be taking the classes you want, working out more, and getting yourself on teh right track…instead of being a lazy slob waking up at 12pm every day and wandering around aimlessly continuously wasting more and more time haha

Ahhahahahaha, possibly I am =). At least in spirit eh?
Oh come on, you got better then that, although I’m really glad your procrastinating and helping me lol otherwise I wouldn’t have your unique insight.
funny I do have to take stats next. hmmm…..the twin theory may not be too far off.
Thanks for the encouragement.
Help me in This > though. Is it better to, maybe even to the point of rudeness blow off social stuff, family stuff, just to keep up with school? obviously there is a balence. but, how far is too far?

Start each day with a positive attitude that you are going to make this day special. That you will use your powers to direct yourself towards your own greatness. Start by planning your day to incorporate something challenging into it. Something that invigorates you. Perhaps exercise, join the drama club, get into jogging, join a student organization that helps others. Try to make a new friend.
Make yourself look as great as you can. People gravitate to someone who likes they have it all together.
It’s really rough when we let things slide. Set time limits on chapters. Tell yourself if you don’t have time to do it right, when are you going to find time to do it over? Apply Project Management techniques, you will find this usefull when you get a job.

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t see the gen. ed. as a waste. I see it as a way to learn new things…including study habits. I just,…I guess I’m just not doing that right now?

how did you do it?
and are you…well obviously not “perfect” now but do you still have huge issues with these things now in your life?

Oh i didnt either! I actually loved all the classes i took, and learned a lot! but after a while, when you’ve completed all your reqs and are way more than eligible to transfer/graduate, it wears you out, especially your motivation. its like GOD JUST LET ME BE DONE WITH IT ALREADY.

Study habits, well, id say i’m still in the learning process…and yes i still have procrastinating issues unfortunately. I think it all has to do with where you are in life. And also the company that surrounds you. Are you friends motivating enough? your significant other?

Recently, within the last 4 months actually, i’ve undergone huge changes…my lifes taken a turn….for the better (id like to hope). You never know what life will bring your way…fate is a tricky bastard. But all we can do is try our best and go with the flow right?

I’d also say staying organized is key, and making a to-do list and actually following it. And honestly, GOING TO SLEEP ON TIME AND WAKING UP EARLY. Lol, seriously. When you’re up early, you get more things done, and more time to do them. I hope that helped some! 3

Challenges…sounds like an idea.

actually, in a way I’m a little too good at making friends, I am pretty good at it honestly, one of my limits has always been to never have a girl friend (thats a different topic but..whatever), lately with all these new relationships I’ve been forming I feel like I need to seclude myself completely so that I can study. I love my friends and making new ones. lately I’ve realized that I need to be mindful of how much TIME I can give to people. In a way I love people too much…….not to pat myself on the back too much…..
I do neeed to set some limits, that is an excellent suggestion…. DO you have any other Project Management Techniques you would care to share?

“Is it better to, maybe even to the point of rudeness blow off social stuff, family stuff, just to keep up with school? obviously there is a balence. but, how far is too far?”

I think its perfectly fine, and in some cases necessary. But only you know how hard you need to be studying/how much work needs to be done for a specific class. You’re family and friends will always be there, and you can always celebrate after a midterm/finals. Don’t worry its okay to blow them off occasionally…and you can always get together one on one at a later time. Why? anything specific you need to ask about?

Sodapop wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t see the gen. ed. as a waste. I see it as a way to learn new things…including study habits. I just,…I guess I’m just not doing that right now?

how did you do it?
and are you…well obviously not “perfect” now but do you still have huge issues with these things now in your life?

Oh i didnt either! I actually loved all the classes i took, and learned a lot! but after a while, when you’ve completed all your reqs and are way more than eligible to transfer/graduate, it wears you out, especially your motivation. its like GOD JUST LET ME BE DONE WITH IT ALREADY.

Study habits, well, id say i’m still in the learning process…and yes i still have procrastinating issues unfortunately. I think it all has to do with where you are in life. And also the company that surrounds you. Are you friends motivating enough? your significant other?

Recently, within the last 4 months actually, i’ve undergone huge changes…my lifes taken a turn….for the better (id like to hope). You never know what life will bring your way…fate is a tricky bastard. But all we can do is try our best and go with the flow right?

I’d also say staying organized is key, and making a to-do list and actually following it. And honestly, GOING TO SLEEP ON TIME AND WAKING UP EARLY. Lol, seriously. When you’re up early, you get more things done, and more time to do them. I hope that helped some! 3

hahahahahah, YES INDEED! I do feel the wear =), trust me I do.
I have some really amazeing friends. really I do, unfortunatly most of them live several hours away, and the ones I see on a daily basis while absolutly awesome and most of them pretty motivating….sigh….the visits are short and the vicious cycle of always having to do more hw prevents hanging out. or study sessions…something I’ve been trying to work on.
eh….you can see what I was telling Anon about the significant other lol =0
I’m really glad that your life is going somewhere!

aight
Stay Organized
Set limits and Plan ahead
Go to bed Early
******* Do the bloody work.

ummmm…..more?

Sodapop wrote:
“Is it better to, maybe even to the point of rudeness blow off social stuff, family stuff, just to keep up with school? obviously there is a balence. but, how far is too far?”

I think its perfectly fine, and in some cases necessary. But only you know how hard you need to be studying/how much work needs to be done for a specific class. You’re family and friends will always be there, and you can always celebrate after a midterm/finals. Don’t worry its okay to blow them off occasionally…and you can always get together one on one at a later time. Why? anything specific you need to ask about?

That helps.
Nothing really specific.
just my….erg. my history and my personality type, well I tend to feel Very obligated to “be there” even if nothing is really going on. I guess maybe I havn’t developed really good, I dunno self preservation habits, I tend to put others first even at the risk of my own (sorry its late words fail me, essentially downturn or…? risk? blah wheres the dictionary when I need it lol

and don’t forget to have fun! haha…don’t worry you’ll be fine… that’s the life of the average college student! And yes! i couldn’t agree with you more…don’t waste your time with a girlfriend! I was the same about a few years ago, and then i met this guy…and then my life pretty much went on hold. I was too content with him, and he was not very motivating at all, bless his heart. But yes, you seem like you know EXACTLY what to do, just stay positive, focus on your goals, dreams, and where you want to be and you’ll be just fine. We all fall in and out of phases like this :) …okay well its pretty late, and i’m gonna get to bed now…if you need any help just post back on here! nice meeting you!

=)
Thanks for the encouragement Sodapop, have a good sleep.

Anonymous wrote:
Challenges…sounds like an idea.

actually, in a way I’m a little too good at making friends, I am pretty good at it honestly, one of my limits has always been to never have a girl friend (thats a different topic but..whatever), lately with all these new relationships I’ve been forming I feel like I need to seclude myself completely so that I can study. I love my friends and making new ones. lately I’ve realized that I need to be mindful of how much TIME I can give to people. In a way I love people too much…….not to pat myself on the back too much…..
I do neeed to set some limits, that is an excellent suggestion…. DO you have any other Project Management Techniques you would care to share?

Yes, make up a chart of projects, get a poster board.. Down one column write down your projects and then make columns over to the right with dates of completion. Suchas Math. Write down chapters 1-3 and what week/month they are expected to be completed in the first column and so on. The last column write what grade you expect to receive and then hang it on the wall in front of your desk. The mind is like a heat seeking missle. It will bring about your own destiny.

I disagree with the destiny part but totally agree the mind is a powerful tool if used or manipulated correctly. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t think i’ll do that exactly but a sheet of paper stapled inside each binder I have and reminders posted every to look at the bloody schedule’s….that…might help

***UPDATE***
Last night did get quite a bit of work done however not enough to avoid failing the test this morning, we’ll see how this works into the grade. Thanks again to you guys for being so helpful. I feel like it gave me some much needed outside perspective. I don’t feel like this is over by any means, oddly aside from feeling monumentally depressed over repeating the SAME bloody error. I feel ok, really down but ok, with a little bit of clarity in what I must do. Lets hope I can keep that spark alive. Having to repeat this class a fourth time is a mental strain I hope I don’t have to bear.