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Is it wrong to be picky?

!…..theres this guy im dating but he bores me to death because he has no direction in life and we have little things in common even though he loves me alot….ive always had a clear vision of what kind of guy i want and im just wondering if its wrong to look for a guy that fits ur criteria or im just being selfish?…..what if i dont find my kind of guy?

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Grim_Hardcastle offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 minutes after post)

There is nothing wrong with standards. Don´t let it bother you so much. The one you can stay with without any doubts would fit you perfectly. Be careful to not look for flaws in people. There is always something.

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psyflyer offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Dating is about finding what you like and don’t. Choose wisely….be picky.

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Dunpar23 offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
El Cajon, CA, US | 1 year, 6 months ago (13 minutes after post)

it is never wrong to have standards. There are things that you want and things that he wants. you can chose if this person is right for you or not. that is why it is called dating and not marriage/ bonding. Just rember no one will be perfect. and dont let one attribute no matter how good it is hide the rest of the person.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (26 minutes after post)

You should never continue dating someone if your first descriptor is “he bores me to death”

Nothin’ wrong with having standards. However, sometimes you meet someone who wasnt at all what you thought you needed, but turned out to be exactly what you were missing. So as long as you keep an open mind, have all the standards you want. Just give things a chance, if they dont work out, say farewell.

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ilivelife offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (27 minutes after post)

If he bores you, this relationship is not for you.

Keep being picky. You may not actually end up with someone who fits all your criteria, but the difference will be when you really love someone, the criteria cease to matter.

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tonyMetalhead offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (59 minutes after post)

It’s not fair on either of you to keep this going. You both deserve better so just explain it to him & break-up. Otherwise your only gonna grow to resent each other & a harsher break-up will be the result.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Being picky is a perfectly normal part of life. If you weren’t picky, you may end up with somebody abusive.

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1 year, 6 months ago (2 hours, 39 minutes after post)

Thanks guys,when i told my friend about this she just said i was being ‘ungrateful’ because this guy really loves me but i guess at the end of the day that doesn’t matter if i don’t feel the same way.

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