friends help: I’ve been single for 8 months now and I hate it. - Help.com

If you look good, how good do you look?

This is a Good Thing, as Martha Stewart would say.

And yes, being along is hard! You got that right, sister. (You’re a sister, yes? (8-D) But without more details it’d be impossible for anyone to tell if you’re whining.

Why did your last two relationships end?

First of all, use of the word “fortnight”, awesome.

Secondly, what are you doing to meet people? Are you just going out to bars or night clubs? Are you approaching others or just waiting for someone to try his luck? And what are you looking for? Do you expect to meet your type in the places you are hanging out?

These questions do not all really need answers, but just a little time to consider your methods and the ends that might be met from them. Might be you’ve already done that and are just having a little bad luck. Might be you look unusually good and that can be a little intimidating. Might be a million and one things. Dunno.

I can’t imagine any of this little diatribe actually helps but there are you, make of it what you will. And for the record, you aren’t whining. Freedom is nice but loneliness sucks. One must pick their evils.

Thanks for opening up to us. No, it doesn’t sound like a 13 year old wrote that. You’re a sweetie.

If you must drink, first and foremost, please don’t drive; but something tells me you’re smarter than that!

Secondly if you must drink, and you’re waking up with a headache or hangover, it’s because you’re dehydrating yourself.

As Joan Armatrading sings: Have some water with the wine.

Does depression run in families? Who made up that stupid rule?

Listen:

No one’s perfect.

There can be no virtues if there are no vices.

No one’s desired all the time.

No one desireS all the time - how about that!

It’s okay to not be comfortable with yourself all the time.

Be kind to everyone, but don’t take any crap.

Teach yourself how to forgive yourself for not being perfect and you’ll find you don’t want to drink as much.

Newsflash: Change is rarely a pleasant experience.

But the good news is, change is what will also eventually cause you to feel better again!

:)

Missie

I am in the same position as you are!!! I am 27 years old and Australian too.
My boyfriend and I brokeup almost 8 months ago, and we were together for 5 years.

Like you I am fun, educated, alright looking and have a good figure, but guys never ask me out. I went out the other night and a guy punched in the arm to try and get my attention. What is it with men these days? I get attention but normally from sleazy guys and never from the guys you want attention from. I’m friendly and outgoing too.

All of my friends are married, in relationships or having children. I never have any single friends to go out with, and my friends who were single a few months ago quickly found new boyfriends.

I like my life, but I get lonely. I don’t need a relationship, but I would like a bit of fun too e.g. dating. It would be so nice just to have a drink with a guy. It seems all they want is one night stand or they are partnered up.

Let me know if you find the answer. I think it is just a hard age to be single. I was single at 21 and it wasn’t this hard.

Well, considering you are grim the uk, might I suggest you use a dating site? Plenty of guys there. Also, you will hardly find serious relationship looking people at small time gigs. If you want better advice, give me a shout on my profile, cheers!