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you have freinds here and you are not alone.
you want help finding a partner?

yowszah, you sure are in a pickle! have you tried applying at places a bit lower down than you deserve? if people arent hiring you maybe all you can do until you find your right career is to work at the small time places like a restaurant of mall. it isnt fun, but it’s money.

i think you sound very very nice and i feel for you. that just really really sounds depressing and i think you finding a soulmate who cares about you and lovees you will help. this is a big step to help. have you talked to ur mom about this? maybe she can help you, hav u tried counsoling?? do u have any insurance? if u dont then u can apply for sooner care.. i have it and itll pay for tharipy annd i think medicen too.. i really care and feel for you and u can always come to mee. my email is, i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> and u comming to this website is a big step and you should find som good friends and advice here but u goota help urself before u try and help anyone else. keep my email in mind cuz im here. :)

Maveric 112 wrote:

SleepWell wrote:
you have freinds here and you are not alone.
you want help finding a partner?

Thanks for taking the time to read that. i’m not sure about the partner thing just yet. Maybe the confidence and self esteem i need to get one

the best i have heard talking on the subject of self-esteem and confidance is a man called David Deangelo, he makes sense in many ways, find him on you youtube, download or buy, his talking is well worth the time.

awwwwwww!!!!! thats sounds terrible!!!! u sure are in a PICKLE!!!~!!~!!!!! DO UR BEST!!!!!!

Maveric 112 wrote:

¡ ¡ MuƒƒÍπ§ � wrote:
yowszah, you sure are in a pickle! have you tried applying at places a bit lower down than you deserve? if people arent hiring you maybe all you can do until you find your right career is to work at the small time places like a restaurant of mall. it isnt fun, but it’s money.

McDonalds turned me down…

I’m currently waiting for a reply from KFC, i’m way too qualified for working a frier but still i need the cash more than allowing myself to be fussy

Ofcourse anytime! just do ur best i can see ur trying really hard!!

Have you thought about visiting your doctor? Sounds like you’ve had a tough time and our NHS offer fantastic therapy services. If you do want to consider that- you’ll need to be as open as you can about what happened in the past (your father) and how it is impacting on your life and that you would like to consider therapy.
Also…have you considered voluntary work? Voluntary work where you can help people is so rewarding and great for building up confidence and low self esteem. I think you are allowed to do voluntary work even if you are claiming unemployment benefit.
Imagine that! Two days or three days a week you can get out if the house, do real work for people, get your expenses paid so you’re not out of pocket and meet other people. You could try your hand at anything … Working a helpline like the samaritans, providing company to older people, animal shelter work. And because you’ll be in current ‘work’ - it’s something to put on your CV and makes you more attractive to employers.
Just a thought! :)

Ps…regarding my post above:
http://www.do-it.org.uk/

Good luck :)x

Awwwwwwwwwwww!!!!! thats terrible!!!! i was abused practicaly all my life and my mom was sexualy abused too and my lil bro abused too!!! i kno how that feels and its really sad hearing all this! i feel for u and kno how u feel! :(((( im soooooo sorryyy!! its not fair and that just heart breaking!!! im sooooo sorrryyy!!!!!!!

Maveric 112 wrote:
Thanks you so much Spacejunk, your advice is excellent. I don’t generally like going to see the doctor but i think i might, if anything it would be nice to have someone to talk to about these things. The stuff with my dad, well he never actually did anything on me he used to beat my mum a lot when i was growing up but the night he tried to murder her still haunts me to this day :(

I also never considered volunteer work before. Though i do have an interview in the morning for the Steps to Work scheme, i may as well take any and all opportunities i can get :)

I can feel a bit of positivity now - go for it! And many volunteers get offered paid employment by the place they’re volunteering for. Anyways- defo something for you to consider and I hope tomorrow goes great for you. Let us know how you get on :)
Sorry to hear about your awful experiences. Witnessing what you did is one of the most terrifying things a child can go through. Seriously. The fact that it wasn’t directed at you doesnt matter. You were a child stuck in a terrible situation. No wonder it still haunts you. I think you could really benefit from talking therapy to help you come to terms with what happened. Gosh…that must have been extremely traumatic for you. I’m not saying you have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) - but I do believe you have post traumatic stress. As a child and still as an adult. I had chronic childhood trauma for many years- when I dealt with it and started to heal, I was amazed at how much peace it brought to so many areas of life!
Hang in there ok? I’m off to bed very soon but you can talk to me any time you want.
Xx

Gosh omigosh i feel soooo bad for u its really hard and it just brings me to tears to hear all this about u and my real dad died wen i wass 3 4 or 5 but it was my step dad that was abusive and theyre finaly getting devorsed but the worstest thing that evr happened was wen i was four i remember and he had me up on the wall by my neck but im sure uv been through way worse! i wish u the best and its hard but u can do it!!! keep ur mind set on ur life and i have faith for u and i dont think iv ever felt for anyone as much as now! if theres anythingggg at all i can do just let me kno!!!!

Maveric 112 wrote:

spacejunk☠ wrote:
I can feel a bit of positivity now - go for it! And many volunteers get offered paid employment by the place they’re volunteering for. Anyways- defo something for you to consider and I hope tomorrow goes great for you. Let us know how you get on :)
Sorry to hear about your awful experiences. Witnessing what you did is one of the most terrifying things a child can go through. Seriously. The fact that it wasn’t directed at you doesnt matter. You were a child stuck in a terrible situation. No wonder it still haunts you. I think you could really benefit from talking therapy to help you come to terms with what happened. Gosh…that must have been extremely traumatic for you. I’m not saying you have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) - but I do believe you have post traumatic stress. As a child and still as an adult. I had chronic childhood trauma for many years- when I dealt with it and started to heal, I was amazed at how much peace it brought to so many areas of life!
Hang in there ok? I’m off to bed very soon but you can talk to me any time you want.
Xx

I don’t think i can thank you enough for all the help you have given me tonight.

and yea i think i’ll go to bed soon too, it is getting late afterall

OKAY! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! TTY SOON! BYE.. :)))))))

Maveric 112 wrote:

spacejunk☠ wrote:
I can feel a bit of positivity now - go for it! And many volunteers get offered paid employment by the place they’re volunteering for. Anyways- defo something for you to consider and I hope tomorrow goes great for you. Let us know how you get on :)
Sorry to hear about your awful experiences. Witnessing what you did is one of the most terrifying things a child can go through. Seriously. The fact that it wasn’t directed at you doesnt matter. You were a child stuck in a terrible situation. No wonder it still haunts you. I think you could really benefit from talking therapy to help you come to terms with what happened. Gosh…that must have been extremely traumatic for you. I’m not saying you have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) - but I do believe you have post traumatic stress. As a child and still as an adult. I had chronic childhood trauma for many years- when I dealt with it and started to heal, I was amazed at how much peace it brought to so many areas of life!
Hang in there ok? I’m off to bed very soon but you can talk to me any time you want.
Xx

I don’t think i can thank you enough for all the help you have given me tonight.

and yea i think i’ll go to bed soon too, it is getting late afterall

No need to. You’re most welcome.
Sleep well :-)x

GNIGHT! :-))

Thankyou and i just i really hav hope and faith for u and belife u can do anyhting u set ur mind to soo just try ur best and i will b on tomorrow :)

Maveric 112 wrote:

¡ ¡ MuƒƒÍπ§ � wrote:
yowszah, you sure are in a pickle! have you tried applying at places a bit lower down than you deserve? if people arent hiring you maybe all you can do until you find your right career is to work at the small time places like a restaurant of mall. it isnt fun, but it’s money.

McDonalds turned me down…

I’m currently waiting for a reply from KFC, i’m way too qualified for working a frier but still i need the cash more than allowing myself to be fussy

holy crap, that’s tough!!! i hope they call you back :(

I read your posts and the relies and you’re not alone.
Many people struggle with the same issues, but you can get through it:)

First, history does not determine your future so maybe close that book and start fresh.

Plan a little routine where you get up, volunteer and exercise everyday. Like walking. Find a group that will provide you a network of people and don’t…don’t discuss the past.

Millions of people have education that they never use or get credit for so keep that card in your pocket:)

Ask people you trust what they think you would be best at and follow that path.

Don’t argue or dispute what they say or they won’t tell you anymore.

Do a little plan as to the pros of any jobs so you can maintain a little self worth. Example…fast food job…warm in the winter, flexible shifts and free food:)

Help old people, help children and take care of your mom:)

lol…Maverick’s don’t have to fight all the time…they deserve breaks too.
Retire your sword and follow for a while until your time is right to rise:)

Ok i haven’t reed everyone elses comments, so sorry if i repeat anything.

Does your mum know how you’re feeling?
Are you close to her?
Talking things through with her may help.

Loads of people are out of work, or are highly educated & skilled people flipping burgers, so maybe lowering your standards will help you to find work.

If you’re still having trouble with your back, how about doing something from home, telesales, even just doing online surveys apparently pays pretty well, its time consuming, but if you have a lot of time on your hands, it could work.

Join some sort of a social group, like a book club, or a free night class, you can meet new people, and build your confidence.
I believe librarys run things like that.
Get your local paper /magazine, or go to your town hall, somewhere like that will have info.

How about using the skills you’ve recently learned to find work, even if it’s just part time, nobody can afford to hire proper gardeners / mechanics / odd job guys etc, so you could find a bit of a side line doing that for others.

Good luck to you & i hope things work out for you.

that sounds great! soooo glad u got out there to meet some people! It sounds like ud b good at working on computors.. if u get a collage degree on computors then u could work at dell or somthin.. my grandma works there. btu just anna warn u that ull b on ur computor practicaly 24/7.. i think u can do some of those comp. jobs at home…, like a work at home job thingy lol.. and u can do ur collage at home on ur computor.. u can also have a homeschool lady guy person teacher com meet u at like a library to hav school there.. 1 on 1. but thats just an idea to get ur colage degree in somthin u want.. well, wat job wuld u like to hav???????? u can get a degree in that “subject” and work torwards the job u want..

Good plan:)

Maveric 112 wrote:
Thanks J.N, I would say that i’m close with my mum, though when it comes to actually helping people well… If she volunteered with the samaritans she would likely end up making people feel more like killing themselves. Last time i talked to her about how i felt she said “Stop being so childish and pathetic matt, your a 20 year old man start acting like one!”

Oh i don’t have any problems with my back anymore, the nerve damage was a couple of years ago and i was perscribed erm… 2x 30/500mg Co-Codamol four times a day. I was warned the codine in them was addictive so after a couple of months i noticed my hands were shaking a bit so i went cold turkey on them to avoid addiction to them. It was a very painful idea but after a while i started to get used to the pain and no longer feel it.

Like i said i’m doing a night course in the local college i thought it would be a good idea so i could meet people, i’m the youngest one there by about 30 years and for an IT course i’m the only one who actually has experiance with computers. I have to admit it feels strange when suddenly everyone wants to talk to me because i’m the only student in the room who knows how to link i database to a spreadsheet.

It also does bring me in some money for technical support. I was called out by one of them to install firefox onto their laptop. Easiest £10 i ever made :D

How good are you with computers?
I know loads of people that aren’t good with them, or want to improve their skill, so if you’re good, you could advertize to give lessons, or repair comps & lap tops, hiring professionals to do this is really expensive, so as you don’t have a business of doing it, you would be charging less than the professionals, so would get more customers.

I find it beneficial to have friends that are much older, it teaches you a lot, you’ll learn a lot from them, not accademically, but life lessons you only get with time & experiance, plus, they’re more fun than you might thing.
Become friends with them on your class, maybe go out with some, you can never have too many friends.

Well my best advice would be to get some voluntary experience. There is this great site where you can choose what type of volunteering you’d be interested in and apply for a series of voluntary opportunities, you can also say when you’re available and such. The good thing about it is that you can do from gift wrapping to helping elderly or helping at a school.

There are a number of things that you can benefit from:
1. It gives you experience in that field, it also gives you great references which employers like, they love to see that someone is devoted, take things seriously and are reliable. That you can totally prove by volunteering, doing work selflessly is a good thing.
2. You get around people, you interact with them, you are surrounded by others, even if you don’t make friends or don’t find your special person you’re still surrounded by them and they will be there to keep you company, helps a lot with coping with everyday stress.
3. It gives you a great deal of confidence, especially if you work with children or elder people, to see a smile on their face, to feel that you did something good or right can make you feel good about yourself. Being more confident helps you with your future interviews and relationships as well.
4. It gives you something to do, you won’t be at home all day long, you won’t be bored, you won’t feel worthless and it will help you get away form your problems as well which can be so nice from time to time.

here is the link to the site:
http://www.do-it.org.uk/
i hope you’ll find this useful

Hey Maveric112
How you doing? How you feeling?
:-)x

I can’t say I have the answers, but the 1st thing you need is prayer, not just prayer but sincere deep prayer with you and GOD. Thank GOD that you’re in this spot and things don’t seem to be looking up. Thank GOD you don’t have a job, Thank GOD that you feel depressed and feel like killing yourself. Thank GOD that you’re unemployed and don’t have money, that you’re lonely. 2nd, start volunteering at some places that could give you the hands on experience and it’ll be the start of your networking base. Help others and see how well it will work for you and give you a platform for yourself. In all things give thanks to GOD whether good or bad and HE’ll open doors you never thought would be opened to you. Let me know how that works for you.

I’ve tried the giving thanks and it works. I was doubtful also but I’m a witness of the power of prayer and giving thanks for the good and bad. Try it, u have nothing to lose.

that sounds really, good well it’s worth giving it a chance:) good luck with it

hows it goin???? sry i havnt been on in a while..

ahhh thats no fun! :( well im doin alright my boyfriends goin through som real big **** right now and im just sooo glad i am a stress realiver to him and make him feel better! he says im like his medicen aka like a personal brand of siggerets.. im goin through stuff too but who isnt??!! everyone has thier tough times but itll get better within time.. but if my mom or his mom evr tries to send one of us away to either fostercare or group homes or treatment again ima run away wit him

CANT WAIT TO BE 18 OR 17!!!!!!!!! only 4 or 5 yrs to go.

Hope u get better soon! and happy birthday!!!!!!!