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I love my girlfriend dearly. She is 22 while I am 34, we met in college. I never really thought the age difference mattered, but her ability to deal with life is effecting my sanity. I will admit that she is going through a lot. I try and be the best support I can but I am scared she does not have the maturity I thought she did, and my support is only allowing her to remain a child.
Today we got into the biggest argument we have ever gotten into. When we argue she talks and does not listen. I find that most of the time I am defending myself against her accusations and thoughts that have nothing to do with anything I say. She distorts what I say and does not let me explain what I mean. I screamed at the top of my lungs for her to stop and shut up (not the best choice I know) and she continued to yell over me. Am I a fool to think she will grow out of this? Should I be with someone who doesn’t recognize my emotional limits and does not know when to lay off? Is it the age? I never thought it was, but am I asking too much of a 22 year old to be in control of her emotions?
We have been together for over a year and a half. We live together, share one car, and basically spend all day every day together.
She threw things at me today, and I am scared she is going to push me so far that I might strike her (I never have nor want to hit a woman).
I don’t know what to do, I love this girl but I am scared she is not sane. I even thought of admitting myself to a psych ward to get a time out and regroup.
Financially I am dependent on this girl, I cannot afford the rent by myself and her mother bought us a car after mine broke down. I don’t want to prolong things because of money, but I can’t do it without her. Plus I love her. She is everything to me, but her inability to deal rationally with life is effecting me negatively.
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