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I love my girlfriend dearly. She is 22 while I am 34, we met in college. I never really thought the age difference mattered, but her ability to deal with life is effecting my sanity. I will admit that she is going through a lot. I try and be the best support I can but I am scared she does not have the maturity I thought she did, and my support is only allowing her to remain a child.
Today we got into the biggest argument we have ever gotten into. When we argue she talks and does not listen. I find that most of the time I am defending myself against her accusations and thoughts that have nothing to do with anything I say. She distorts what I say and does not let me explain what I mean. I screamed at the top of my lungs for her to stop and shut up (not the best choice I know) and she continued to yell over me. Am I a fool to think she will grow out of this? Should I be with someone who doesn’t recognize my emotional limits and does not know when to lay off? Is it the age? I never thought it was, but am I asking too much of a 22 year old to be in control of her emotions?
We have been together for over a year and a half. We live together, share one car, and basically spend all day every day together.
She threw things at me today, and I am scared she is going to push me so far that I might strike her (I never have nor want to hit a woman).
I don’t know what to do, I love this girl but I am scared she is not sane. I even thought of admitting myself to a psych ward to get a time out and regroup.
Financially I am dependent on this girl, I cannot afford the rent by myself and her mother bought us a car after mine broke down. I don’t want to prolong things because of money, but I can’t do it without her. Plus I love her. She is everything to me, but her inability to deal rationally with life is effecting me negatively.
Help!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (52 minutes after post)

After a year and a half, I’m pretty sure you get a grasp of who the person is. So, unfortunately, that’s her. That’s what you’re going to get of her.

She’s going to always be 12 years less mature than you are. A hard thing to deal with. I don’t think she’ll grow out of it in time before you get totally fed up.

My advice is to break up. She needs to grow up by being alone and independent. You should be with someone closer to your age who has more things figured out. Can you move back home for a short period of time just to get everything sorted out? Can you find a new roomate? Just put and ad up and get too it.

If you’re thinking that she’s going to drive you so crazy that you want to smack her, that’s a sign that that is not love at all. I think you might have lust for this girl. she might be dear to you, but this relationship sir does not feel like love.

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