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I’m in love with my friend who has a boyfriend.
How do I deal with it?
I’ve been friends with my current crush for a few months now and I’ve developed really strong feelings for her. I literally think she maybe the girl of my dreams and someone I could spend the rest of my life with. The problem is that she just got back together with her ex boyfriend a few weeks ago and I’ve been taking it really hard. The crazy thing is before she got back together with her ex I told her I liked her and wanted to take her out for real. She said yes and we were about to make official plans and then the ex comes into the equation thus making the rest history. She felt really bad about the whole thing and still wanted to be friends which we still are, but her reasoning was the fact that they had a lot of great history and that she still liked him. So now its been a few weeks and I can’t stop thinking about her cause I’m convinced that she’s the perfect girl for me. I’ve been having a tough time controlling my feelings about the whole thing and I’m kinda a mess. Though here’s the catch with the whole thing, she will be going home for winter break which is 12 hours from where we go to school and her bf lives hear in the area. Also next semester she’ll be studying abroad and won’t be back until the summer. My thoughts are that they won’t be together by the time she gets back from her trip and I may have a shot during the summer. But if they are still together by then idk how to deal with the whole thing. Does anyone think it would be a good idea to tell her how I feel before she leaves to study abroad? Or should I just wait and see what happens by the time she gets back? I’m really confused on how to deal with this whole thing and would appreciate any advice I could get! Also does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this whole thing emotionally? I’m such a wreck right now and its awful.
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