Love help: Ok so I have a bit of a problem.

miss lizzie

Ok so I have a bit of a problem.

I have been best friends with this guy for the past 8 years and we’ve always kinda liked each other but we’ve always been with other people. Well my other best friend was like in love with him and so I played match maker and got them together. she is sooooo happy with him and most the time he is really happy with her. well here is my problem comes in, I think I’m in love with him. I don’t know what to do. I mean, I can’t tell either of them that I’m in love with him. It would ruin everything. And I just want her to be happy because she’s been through a lot and she deserves to be happy. Ugh, what do I do?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 5 months ago (4 minutes after post)

You wait it out.

miss lizzie 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

that could forever though

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Ahhotep 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Wait, they will maybe break up. And stay away from them.

Help me with: Why are you not sleeping?

miss lizzie 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

How can I stay away from them? They are my best friends. We are actually all hanging out tonight.

Help me with: I think I need help…I just don’t know how to reach out for it..

pearlbone 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

You created such a high drama situation. YOU CREATED this… deal with the consequences. If you didn’t act on your feelings when you had the chance before, why do you think you ever would? I don’t know your friend, but if she breaks up with him she probably won’t be happy with you dating him afterwards. Let him be happy, and move on with your life. If you genuinely care about your friends happiness, then you will be content, even if you are the one left out.

Help me with: What would you consider to be something worth ending a friendship/relationship over?

Ahhotep 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Plus love, big deal. Its just like plus other elements. Keep those other elements out.

Help me with: Why are you not sleeping?

JackieNR44 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

You only live ONCEEEE go tell them both how u feel widout regrets

Caribou 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 days, 14 hours after post)

Isnt it difficult?
Im in a similar situation and it feels like the right thing to do is completely the opposite of what will make you happy.
There is nothing wrong with selfishness but it feels like I dont deserve such a person… And that she deserves a better man than me.

Maybe its better this way, that they never find out. Keeping the burdens to oneself to keep their bliss.

Help me with: How can you know if a person you love is the one you are going to marry and spend the rest of your life with?

someone on this site 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

If:

and we’ve always kinda liked each other

then why:

so I played match maker and got them together.

So a few months have passed now, what ended up happening with him & her, and him & you?

miss lizzie 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

I played match maker because I valued her happiness over my own. she’s been through a lot in her life and I just wanted her to be happy.

Well they ended up breaking up and pretty much hating each other. They still don’t talk to each other and its been about 3 months. Him and I got in a fight in February because his selfish pride got in the way of our friendship. He just apologized to me this past Sunday so I guess we are ok as friends now.

Help me with: I think I need help…I just don’t know how to reach out for it..

someone on this site 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Oh the joys of drama! I hope things remain okay between you two as friends.

miss lizzie 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

oh yeah tell me about it haha! that’s why I deleted my facebook, waaaay too much drama! me and the girl are best friends, me and the guy are starting to be ok friends again, but him and her I fear will never be friends again.

Help me with: I think I need help…I just don’t know how to reach out for it..

someone on this site 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Yep, I’m anti-facebook anymore. I gave up on it after the whole issue of ex-becoming-stalker started or just plain psycho-stalkers, or psycho-stalker-b*tches.

miss lizzie 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

facebook just wasn’t worth all the drama honestly lol

Help me with: I think I need help…I just don’t know how to reach out for it..

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Exactly. Myspace was huge before, then it was close-to-lost to the ether of the “interwebz” when facebook hit it big. I am guessing that facebook will eventually be pushed aside when a new and fancier online social network makes it big.

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