well to start my explanation of my situation I am 25 years old and recently started seeing a girl I have known for a couple years now and need some advice! About 2 years ago I was introduced to this girl as she was dating a friend of mine at the time. The friend of mine who was dating her on and off basically is just not the “True relationship type of person”. They dated on and off while he was in and out of jail all the time the past 2 years and basically used her for rides to places, and money to support him. Last summer he was serving a year long sentence and she had contacted me and asked me how I was doing and we decided to get together and catch up. During the on and off times while he was locked up me and her would hang out or run into eachother occasionally and I could tell how much she liked him and was there for him but he treated her terrible in return. Cheating on his part was a factor as well as just being a burden to her and treating her like she was just his slave. May I add that me and him were never “Close Friends, but more so aquaintance friends.” After serving his year sentence he was released about 3 months ago back in October if I had to guess, and they continued on with their relationship and eventually he cheated on her again and she finally stepped up to the plate and ended it for good in mid- November. A few weeks after there break up she had text messaged me to ask how I was doing and we got together and caught up which led to me explaining my thoughts on her situation to her and how I always had known she had a bigger heart that what she was getting from him and also proceeded to explain how I always somewhat had a little crush on her. Since then and over the past month, we have been seeing eachother and dating. Although it seems to be going well, there are still a few things that bother me that I could use some advice on. We have slept together twice now in the past couple weeks and have been seeing eachother pretty much on a regular basis. However, I notice myself being the affectionate one and notice that she does not show any affection at all. For example when I go in to kiss her, she always kisses back but I notice that she never goes out of her way to ask me for one. Also when we lay together in bed I feel as if im the only one partaking in the cuddling. She doesnt move away when I put my arm around her, but never seems to turn to put her arm around me as well. Last night I had mentioned it to her that it was bothering me and just wanted to know why the affectionate side wasnt there. She had just said that she isint sure why but just doesnt feel affectionate latley. I know she was having some issues of getting over her ex as she told me in the first couple weeks we were seeing eachother, but that seems to me as it is going away. Her mom absolutley loves me which is a great step into the relationship and she tells me all the time that her mom says I am golden for her and she shouldnt let me slip away. I dont take that for granted though as I know ultimatley it is up to her heart if she wants to make this a labeled “RELATIONSHIP.” She comes up to visit me at work often on her days off, and seems to be liking me but just having a hard time showing it. Also I should probably state that I am 25 years old and she is only 20, which isint a huge deal but at the same time I have been through similar break ups but not as rough so its confusing for me. Should I worry about her not showing affection to me? Am I going too far with overthinking this? Help!
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