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can you ever really forgive someone after they’ve cheated on you?

more than once? and lied about it for over two months?

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (4 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

me personally, no. i wouldn’t even get past the first time, but then i also believe that cheating’s always a choice so…

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~CaitherrA~ offline Verified User (4 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

No… Not really. There will always be the thought/doubt/suspicion and because that will always remain you will never ever be able to TRULY forgive. You can allow them back in your life, and maybe give them another chance, but they can’t ever regain the trust.

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crystalsandsand offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

More than likely no.
I mean maybe it’s possible, but things would never be the same.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I couldn’t.

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 year, 6 months ago (12 minutes after post)

There are two kinds :
1/ the stable kind never cheats for life
2/ the unstable kind prone to cheating.

The unstable kind can never be converted into the stable kind.

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (7 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Forgive the person because nobody, including yourself, is perfect. You don’t need to forgive the act itself. Walk away and never look back, but don’t hold onto the grudge. It will only make your life miserable carrying unnecessary baggage for years on end.

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one blood offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (50 minutes after post)

I agree with Cell.

You can forgive, but should you continue to let this person have your heart?

**** no.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (4 hours, 25 minutes after post)

forgive, yes. but you’re asking for more pain if you continue to date them. forgiveness isn’t the same as making dumb decisions for the sake of a one-sided love. it’s time to say goodbye.

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The Sherlockian online Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (11 hours, 19 minutes after post)

If you’re dating and he cheats, it’s time to bid him “Sayonara!”

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machant offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (15 hours, 23 minutes after post)

forgive, maybe with the time, yes, but giving him another is not a good idea,you will never trust him again, and if he did it once what is going to stop him for doing it again?
who has cheated once, will do it again, it’s a choice nobody force you to cheat

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