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My best friends brother.
I’m 18 years old. Just so you don’t go into reading this thinking I’m a stupid, clueless teenager.
I have this best friend. Alexis. We’ve been best friends since freshman year or high school. And she has a brother. Zach. Only like a year younger. I have never thought about him anymore then a friend. He was basically like a brother.
Well, this past summer I was gone for 10 weeks at basic trainging for the national guard. When I got home, I spent a lot of time with my friend. Then one day I was at her house and we were watching a movie. It was me, alexis, and zach and his friend brandon. Alexis and brandon fell asleep but zach and I were still awake. We put in another movie but just ended up laying on the floor talking. We had to whisper since everyone else was asleep, so we were kinda close together. Then we got quiet and he asked what I was thinking. I said nothing. But what I was really thinking was that I liked laying there talking to him. He’s a sweet guy and I’ve known him for a long time. Then I asked him what he was thinking. He said “you know what I’m thinking.” After going back and forth trying to figure out what he was thinking, he said it. “I want to kiss you right now. I’ve wanted to since before you left for basic training. I like you.” Inside, I felt soooo happy! So he kissed me. He kissed me a few times. We ended up laying there and talking till about 5 in the morning.
I told alexis the next day. I thought she would hate me. Or be upset. She wasn’t though. She was like “that’s so exciting! I figured he liked you!”
There is one problem though. A big problem. He has a girlfriend. They just started dating like 2 weeks before he kissed me. I’m not gonna lie, I legit felt terrible the next morning. I was just so caught up in the moment that I didn’t realize what I was doing.
About 2 months later I was at their house, but alexis wasn’t. Zach and I were talking and… well, I let him kiss me again. I told myself I wouldn’t let him. But istarted to like him. And no, its not because he kissed me. He wrote me letters while I was at basic and when I got home he was super nice to me.
I was talking to alexis the other day. I told her exactly how I was feeling. Upset that he has a girlfriend. Mad that I let him kiss me. Dumb for not stopping him. I want to talk to him. I need to tell him what I’m thinking.
So I need advice.
1. How should I bring it up to him? He knows I like him. but I want to tell him that he needs to stop trying to kiss me when he is dating someone.
2. How can I forget about him? I keep telling myself that if he’s cheating on his girlfriend now to kiss me, then what if we date and he does it to me? Also, if he really does like me then why would he date someone else?
Please help. I know, I’m dumb. I need any advice I can get.
Please and thank you :)
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