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What is wrong with me, and how do I change it without changing myself?

Or is it worth it to change myself?

Okay…the shortest way I can summarize it is that I am different. Different from the people that surround me. I go to a very liberal school, and people are usually very open-minded. But I cannot express my personal opinions because whenever I do, it feels like I get attacked and cornered for what I say.

It’s hard to explain, but I really do not like change. I don’t like technological advancements…for many reasons.
I tried speaking up…and I couldn’t do it without pissing people off or hurting their feelings.
For example, I said I didn’t think change was good, and then this guy gets all defensive and tells me that without change in the medical field, he would be dead. And I love this guy, so you can imagine how bad that hurt me, too.

But people are defying the laws of nature….it is natural for people to die and to be born and then to die again…just like all living things….can someone explain this dilemma? Please? What is RIGHT???!!!

Another example: Communism. If I try to defend it in the least bit, I get attacked.

I was in history class the other day, and my history teacher explained the difference between a Jeffersonian Democracy and a Hamiltonian. And then he said that Jefferson didn’t know a thing about the economy and that Hamilton is the best, etc. etc. But I like Jefferson’s ideas better!

Another example: I grew up in a third world country, where people did not use credit cards or had banks or anything. And now I look at the country and more and more people are using credit cards and banks. I don’t like change!
What is wrong with me? It feels like everyone That I ever would agree with is either dead or dying, and everyone I don’t agree sits next to me in class.

How do I change my opinions? Are they wrong? What is right? And how do you know? And how can I voice my opinions without being attacked? How come other people are aloud to make such blunt statements, as in “Thomas Jefferson knew nothing about the economy,” and I have to mold my opinion in the form of a question so I don’t hurt or piss anyone off?

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stargirl13 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Keep your own voice. It’s hard and you’re going to want to change yourself for others, but don’t, don’t ever. Your opinions form who you will be when you grow up, and it sounds to me like you’ve got some pretty good ones. Try not to take it personal when people disagree with you.

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