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I disapprove my friend’s new relationship, who’s in the right?
Before I start, I just want to say that I know this is none of my concerns. I’m not planning on doing anything about this. They’re happy and I’m happy for them, even if I can’t accept how it came to be. I’m just so bothered by this that I’m hoping to rest this by discussing it with someone. Really, that’s the only reason I’m writing this so kindly leave if you’re going to write something not related.
So a little context to give you guys an understanding. My friend, Sam, is currently dating Tina who is also my friend. I met Tina through Sam roughly a year ago, which is around the time that I also met Daniel, another mutual friend of Sam (who also met Tina through Sam). By the way, this is really condensed, there’s a ton of little things that went on as well but for the sake of shortness, I just wrote the main points.
Well at the time, roughly a year ago, Daniel and Tina had a “thing” going. They weren’t officially dating, but both of them liked each other. Daniel asked Sam if it was okay for them to do this because he didn’t know the relationship between Sam and Tina. Sam gave him his approval and that’s how it all started. After sometime though, about 3 months or so, Tina tells me that she actually liked Sam which made me go whoa. I asked her (several times actually) if she still liked Daniel to which she replied yes. But I guess that wasn’t enough because about a month after that, Tina broke it off with Daniel (not that they were dating or anything).
So I talked to Sam and he told me that he didn’t like Tina. Which is great because at least he isn’t screwing over Daniel, especially after giving him his approval. But just a week later, he ended up making a move on Tina and now they’re dating.
So why does this bother me so much? Well first of all, Daniel got screwed over. He liked Tina, even asked and got approval from Sam, but ended up being left behind. Tina, despite telling me that she liked Daniel, cut things with him and went after Sam even though she knew he didn’t like her, or so I thought. Sam, even after giving Daniel his approval, accepted Tina with open arms once he started to like her which is great for Tina because she still like him.
Poor Daniel… I just feel really bad for him. And you know, I don’t even talk to him anymore because we had a fight and he’s kind of an *** to me. But I still feel really bad for him.
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