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Help, I’m afraid to confront my boyfriend for fear of driving him away..

I want to talk to him because I feel like he’s still talking with/ in good relations with his ex. I don’t know for sure, so I don’t want to place blame before I know the details..but to get the details I have to talk to him.

I’m afraid if I bring this up, he’ll see me as paranoid, annoying, and then he really WILL have a reason to go out with someone else…

What should I do? Ignore it or talk to him?

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A-Cortex offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Girl, if he can’t handle an honest talk about your feelings, he can’t handle anything in the relationship. Why be with a guy you can’t trust to talk to?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Love is based in being open honest and truthful with another person. If you can’t be any of those than walk away from the relationship now. You both desrve better.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (12 minutes after post)

I don’t really see why there would be a problem. If he’s just friends with his ex, then he’s got nothing to hide, and you’re just a little bit jealous. No harm there.

The only thing I can think of is that you are scared that he really is being unfaithful, and messing around with his ex. And that by confronting him, you’ll find out something you didn’t really want to know, and be FORCED to break up with him.

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