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how do you know what he wrote in those posts about love Where true?

They were under his profile under things he has posted. I’ve asked him about the girls he has liked in the past and he was completely open with me. But he said he’s never felt love towards any of them. Now that I see that he has I feel as though he wont trust me with this kind of information. We are both very open with each other and I love him a lot but I just don’t feel like I can compare to how he felt in the past towards them. I’ve met one of the girls before and she is beyond perfect.. I just feel like I’m not good enough now. He deserves better

Don’t feel bad.
I’ve got a feeling that I’m not good enough for your boyfriend either.

I’m afraid to tell him… I feel like he’s going to deny it. I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions of how to ask?

do you booth have fun when you are together?

To his face might be an idea. At the end of the day, if hes gonna put it on a website for people to read, its not exactly private is it? The perception of love changes over time. Love is what we allow ourselves to feel.

I am not quite sure which is the main problem,

-is it that he was madly in love previously and he didn’t tell you- so you don’t trust him now?

-is it that you don’t feel like you can “compare to how he felt in the past towards them” because you met “one of the girls before and she is beyond perfect”?

-is it that you feel he won’t ever trust you again “with this kind of information”

-is it that you are unsure whether he should stay with you?

-( this is me wondering) is it that you are in shock and unsure yourself if this should be a problem in the first place?

i feel like i can’t compare.

based off of his descriptions of how in love he was

Anonymous wrote:
do you booth have fun when you are together?

Yes we do

Ok I can focus now :-)

Comparing yourself is understandable because you want to make sure you are the best he ever had, thats part of being in love. However, there are things in life we can never do anything about. That is: The Past.

So what if they seem something special? what difference will that make? He is not with them now so they must have failed on other fronts and thats why it didn’t last. Thats what your boyfriend will remember the most.

You stand a much better chance of making your relationship with him work if you focus on you two, rather than bring others in the relationship. All that is history and to be honest I really don’t know why you even wanted to go into his past posts. You two are one fresh new begining, a new story and you can make it as good or as bad as you want. Your relationship has nothing to do with the other girls’ looks or degree of love. Your relationship is unique to you two so please take hold of your insecure thoughts and promise yourself you won’t dwell on them again (or bring them up!) because if you do, you will only be hurting yourself and your relationship in the long run.

Alright. Thank you for your help everyone. :)