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Another weird post - about comunication and answering to messages.

Just realized something, so writing it here to think it through. So - when I was younger, I used to always find a way to answer to any message (text, email etc) I received very quickly. But at some point I started getting answers from people later and later - they “forgot”, they “were busy”, they “didn’t get my message” and so on. That used to upset me pretty much, as it meant for me that either I wasn’t busy enough in confront of them, so I was the girl doing focusing on relationships because she had nothing else to focus on (I’m not sure this was true - I was in fact very busy, but I still managed to always find a moment, or at least I perceive it so now), or that they didn’t care enough for me to answer. It only got worse and worse, especially with my boyfriend from whom I waited to get messages or calls for weeks (yep, long distance wasn’t easy), until I just said “stop, if you don’t care, I don’t see why I should”, so I just stopped bothering (I went even a bit overboard with that actually, but that’s another story). Unfortunately, I can see that some bitterness from it still remains. So hence this post. Need to see, feel, accept and deal with it better, understanding what this all was about. I’m writing this more for myself, but if you’ve got some comments, they’re very welcome!

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