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Can I ask for advice about this girl?

We are good friends. She unfortunately lives in another country and I really don’t see a possible way of being together. She knows I like her and I think she may like me though I’m really unsure. Now, I do want to move on only because we live so far from each other. If she does get a boyfriend it will really hurt so much, so I wanted to put as my facebook status that I’m in a relationship even though I’m not, just in case if she gets a boyfriend I won’t be as hurt or at least she won’t think I am. Do you think that would hurt her even if she doesn’t have feelings for me being that she knows I like her?

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BlindOptimism offline Verified User (4 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Maybe, maybe not, but I don’t see what you have to gain by doing it anyway. I mean, if you want to label yourself as ‘unavailable’ that’s one thing, but it won’t really achieve much. Plus, it won’t really stop you feeling hurt if she does get another boyfriend.

If she does get hurt by it, it’ll be even worse because she’d have been hurt by an untruth. My suggestion would be to talk to her about the situation - you can say that you like her but distance is a problem and see what she says. I think that’s the best way to move things forward - either you can work on a solution together or you’ll know for sure that you have to back off.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (23 minutes after post)

I think that you are over thinking this. Did she ever mention that she was getting serious with someone sometime soon. I think you should ask her how she feels bc if she really doesnt like you then maybe that will help you move on.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (29 minutes after post)

But you will still be hurt, regardless of how many ways you try to disguise it, will you not? Besides, what are you going to do if she inquires about your fictitious relationship?

She might like you just as much and could quite possibly feel hurt at the idea of you having a girlfriend, even though you wouldn’t really have one. I just think the whole idea is unnecessary. In all probability, the idea will not have the intended result and you’d be running the risk of making her think less of you should she ever find out the truth.

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1 year, 4 months ago (59 minutes after post)

deadly yet beautiful wrote:
I think that you are over thinking this. Did she ever mention that she was getting serious with someone sometime soon. I think you should ask her how she feels bc if she really doesnt like you then maybe that will help you move on.

She never mentioned another guy at all, but it’s bound to happen, no? I just care for her so much. I hate this distance thing.

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