Love help: My daughter wants to marry a guy , who left her out of frustration … as his father is a drug addict. - Help.com

Tell her that if she marries before graduation, she is completely on her own–you won’t contribute any more to her education or upkeep. Tell her that you see it as bringing down the curtain on her future . . . she gets married, has babies with a hard-headed and insensitive man, and then wishes she hadn’t. Tell her you won’t be a part of that.

Girls get boy-crazy and THEY are very hard-headed. And the more that a parent doesn’t want them to marry some jerk, the more they want to do it.

If she has girlfriends, enlist their help. Girls don’t think their parents know what they are talking about–but they will listen to their peers.

I especially agree with enlisting the help of her friends, if you can.

In the end, she will have to make her own choices and deal with their consequences. All you can do is offer guidance and, if necessary, “tough love”.

If she agrees to finish her education . will it be advisable to get her married in such family ?

My wife and I did our best to show our daughter that her insecure, possessive and controlling boyfriend was not good for her. But it took her peers to finally convince her. Teenagers are absolutely convinced that their parents lived on some other planet and that what they observed and learned about human behavior doesn’t apply to the current generation!

I’ve been in a position just like your daughter before. I was very stubborn, ignoring warnings that others gave me. I too am very emotional by nature, and I loved him very much was very attached to him, and would have married him if he had ever asked. He’d been a drug addict, alcoholic, attempted suicide multiple times….all of which I knew, but it didn’t bother me, despite being a walking-talking-goody-two-shoes! But as time went on, little things cropped up that made me doubt him, but I pushed them aside. Eventually, as I spent more and more time with him, the doubts grew stronger. I’ll admit I wasn’t strong enough to break us up, but he eventually did (we’d been dating for about 8 months). I still believe that the guy I loved was very much misunderstood, and just needed people to be there for him, but it just didn’t work out between us because we were so different in ways I didn’t realize.

Reason for telling you this is because maybe you should let them spend more time together, so that she can realize how different they are for themselves. It would be even better if you could spend time with him too - you never know, there may be a side that you aren’t seeing to him?

One thing that really helps is for the girl’s father to really look her boyfriend in the eye. SO MUCH can be conveyed without saying a word!