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get over it? she did apologize

get over it , if she doesn’t respect you then she doesn’t deserve you as a friend either .

Just forget about it. Don’t mention it again and move on.

Again, I think the single biggest mistake made by gays and lesbians is coming on to a straight person.

I’m sure they wouldn’t like a straight person coming on to them in such a way.

And, in fact, nobody should be kissing anybody until a “relationship” has progressed to that extent!

it rare for gays to come on to straight people same with other way around

We have gaydar and they have straightdar

Perchance you might have sent her or she may have heard that possibly you might be gay or bisexual. Don’t dwell on the reasons too much. You should talk to her. If she brings it up discuss it politely. What she did was just a simple error in judgement. Not talking to her is punishment beyond what is necessary. She deserves an apology now too.

maybe she’s a bit shy to face you after what she has done

strange !
message her about it
tell her that you two need to talk.

F*** texting her. Go and talk to her. She’s worried she is now going to lose you as a friend. Go and tell her that’s not the case.

sara111 wrote:
don’t see why, i smiled at her today and she normally sits with my group and she was not there.

She sounds embarrassed. Or upset. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?

I suppose that if anybody just KISSED you and you weren’t expecting it, you’d be quite shocked . . .

Most people do NOT like “surprises”!

Imagine if you’re a girl and your uncle plants one squarely on your lips, or if you’re a guy and your female college professors smacks you . . . any time you’re not really expecting it, the act will be rather unsettling.

Kisses should always be worked up to . . . I think the OP’s girl friend was trying to take an “aggressive” tack to see if her friend was bi or whatever. Not recommended!

Same as if some guy did it . . . it’s just not “kissing kosher”!

You can’t control other people’s actions or reactions. It seems you are ready to move on and she isn’t. Let her do her thing in her own time.

Give her time to get over the rejection. She probably realises she made a mistake and feels embarrassed. Its good you tried to talk to her. It would also be good if you just let her know that you want to carry on being friends and you would be happy to hear from her when she is ready.

the best thing to do is to talk about it with her
if she’s embarrassed tell her that its fine and move on , but if she acts lame and like its not her mistake then let it go

sara111 wrote:
Okay, i’m seeing her tomorrow with my group. I’ll talk to her then, better to talk in person than over a screen

You said you haven’t spoken to her since!!!

sara111 wrote:
since what? haha

Since she kissed you…

“I’ve not spoken to her since, it’s just so awkward.”

☠WuT☠ wrote:
get over it? she did apologize

Guu93 wrote:
get over it , if she doesn’t respect you then she doesn’t deserve you as a friend either .

Dæmon wrote:
Just forget about it. Don’t mention it again and move on.

. . .Incredible. . .
But the straits and religious people, don’t let them get away with one iota.
“Homosexuality is an illness.” (Oh, here it comes now. . . Let’s not just for get about it.)
. . .and we wonder why people keep crossing the line, more and more every day.

Don’t let it go. Call her on the carpet, and tell her the cost of assumption was a good friendship. If she had any real respect for you she would have asked you how you felt about her in different ways.

People make mistakes, misread signals, and misjudge situations.

People (straight and gay) are fallible.

I don’t think this incident is worth losing a friendship over.

She probably feels embarrassed & awkward - carry on being a friend and I’m sure it will blow over and you can get back to normal.