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my boyfriend thinks i cheat on him because i cheated in the past but he has too.

i am and have always been a tomboy so i have about 5 wicked close females friends and a couple guy friends. my guy, girl friends and i all hang out together on the weekdays but on the weekends im with him. there have been one or two times when i dont respond for an hour cuz i dont want to be rude and constantly text people when im around my besties. can u please tell me what i can say to make him trust me?

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Guu93 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 minutes after post)

This is a little bit hard
you lost his trust before and now you have to work on it
answer him all the time because if u didn’t answer the thought around his head will keep spinning where are you and so on.
try to let him know that you’re faithful. always respond and there is no problem if u just answer him for a min saying where are you and what are u doing. this won’t be a problem =)

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

If you have to constantly “prove” your trustworthiness to this guy, he is one big control freak and you need to drop him.

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Guu93 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

but she cheated in the past and he cheated also so they’re the one’s who killed this trust !

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

i didnt ever lose his trust. we both cheated on an ex before. and i do but even if there just slightly brief he will get suspicious.

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Guu93 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

chev.jame wrote:
If you have to constantly “prove” your trustworthiness to this guy, he is one big control freak and you need to drop him.

dump him !

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

i want him to have a little faith in me. i cant change for the better unless he has faith in me too.

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Guu93 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (16 minutes after post)

you have to believe in yourself and have faith in yourself to let others have faith in you.
if he loves you he will accept you as you are !

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (16 minutes after post)

If he doesn’t trust you, then you shouldn’t trust him.

Tell him that.

And tell him that he needs to back off, right now, or risk destroying the relationship.

Something you should also know: EVERY SINGLE jealous, possessive, and controlling guy out there uses the excuse that some girl cheated on him before, so he can’t help himself. That is pure hogwash, of course. If he cannot separate you from the other women in his life, he doesn’t need a girlfriend until he sorts himself out.

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justinjohnsonsli offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (42 minutes after post)

was he like this before you cheated on him?

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