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i am a 14 year old girl.
ive never been kissed and have NEVER even had a boyfriend. All i want is love, but i feel like it will never happen for me. all my friends have already been kissed. hell one of me friends has already seen some guys **** like in real life. my point is, how can i get a boyfriend?
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You’re fourteen. You’re a child. You don’t need a boyfriend. Focus on your schoolwork.
well no kidding. how old are you? ever remember wanting a first love? not much help there
I wouldn’t worry so much about foreplay with a guy. If you want a boyfriend, I suggest just finding one at school.
You don’t need help finding a boyfriend. You need help sorting our your priorities.
trying that. i guess i wasnt clear enough with my question
Let me ask you; what makes you think you need a boyfriend at your age?
Your GRADES should be your #1 concern for now. But if you really want a boyfriend, get more social with the right people. Walk up and start a conversation with someone new. It takes a friendship to buildup to a relationship.
Don’t worry, we’re all looking for love ( well, a lot of us anyway) and many of us are much older than fourteen! At this age people are just starting to ‘experiment’ people will make a big deal out of anything new, such as kissing etc. It’s honestly not that amazing and whatever it seems, most people do not find love until they’re older.
Just relax and if you meet someone you fancy that’s really nice, but don’t look for it to hard or you’ll be disappointed. Focus on good friendships, studies and having fun and you’ll eventually meet someone like-minded who treats you well and you enjoy being around.
I promise you that people will make out that kissing and all that stuff is some amazing new thing, it isn’t. They just love to pretend it is. When you do have your first kiss, if it’s with someone you genuinely like and who is lovely to you, you’ll remember it for a long time!
14 is not too young,heck most loves survive from being made so young. I bet you are awesome. If any guy doesn’t realize that then wait. There is someone for everyone. Be patient. If your like me and is too impatient ask someone out yourself. Good luck
At your age its very hard to actually find true love. This means you will have to kiss many frogs before you find your prince. Remember each frog is a heartache in itself.
The longer you leave this process and take your time learning about boys and their ways, the better choices you will make and the fewer painful experiences you will have.
You feel that without a boyfriend hanging on your arm, you cannot be validated as a female. And that is not correct.
From ages 15 - 17, I have seen scores of teenage girls go absolutely boy crazy. Boys become their obsession to the exclusion of everything else. You don’t see this happening with boys. Why? Because boys have other interests than girls!
This is a critical time for you as you must start preparing yourself NOW for life. You must get an education, and you must learn essential life skills, before you are ready to venture forth on your own.
And the idea is to really venture forth on your own, and to show yourself capable of living independently, rather than latching onto some guy and looking to him for your upkeep.
You must be a complete person on your own if you want to enter a relationship as an equal. And if you enter a relationship other than as an equal, it is doomed to failure.
You cannot be an “equal” if your formative years are wasted on being “boy crazy.” Yes . . . go on dates, kiss, make out . . . but realize, too, that all school romances are practice romances. Your high school is a tidal pool with an extremely limited selection. What’s more, the boys are FAR from being fully mature and independent. Your best bet on finding a decent lifemate is NOT the tidal pool, but the deep blue sea that lies beyond!
Have fun. Don’t obsess over boys. Your academics is your first priority. When you are ready . . . you will find that true love–or he will find you!
Well said chev. I salute you.
What does seeing some guy’s ***** have to do with love? Is that what true love is to you?
just wait, the time will come. my boyfriend was a year older than me, hed never kissed a girl and he was 15, i was his first propper relationship too. you have nothing to worry about. the time will come, and when you meet the right guy you will know hes perfect for you. and trust me its not all roses.once you get into havingboyfriends you realise you should have stayed away from them aslong as you could of. but just dont worry your love is out there somewherexx
When you stop looking you will find one !
Trust me :)
Post a replyyou shouldn’t go out yet anh hey we are the same age and i use to want a girlfriend but wanting one brought my grases down and i nearly repeated 7th grade
you shouldn’t go out yet and i am the same age as you but i wanted a girlfriend but wanting one brought my grades down
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