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Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 months, and yesterday she wanted to break up because we had to many arguments. Most of the arguments was from me starting them. I really miss her now and I want her back. But what she told me is that she doesn’t change her mind once she makes them(so basically she doesn’t get back to any of her ex’s)I want this to change about her, and I want her back, what should I do. Thanks guys!

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 minutes after post)

If your constantly rowing thats telling you shes not the right one.

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abimbolashoga4 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

first of all i think u should find a very good friend of hers and tell her 2 talk 2 her and if she doesnt agree there is always someone who we all honour which we alwaysw listen to come wat it so try talk to the person but thet will only work if your relationship is a open and mature one gud luck

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1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

2 months is a very short time to have Any arguments, if I met a girl and within 2 months we was arguing i would say “no! what is this sh’t” and leave.

do you live in a self-amused world?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

@abimbolashoga4 - true i did that, and she knows that my ex is not that type of person that would get back too. But she can help.

@Angie :) - i mean shes been the right one for me, i just messed up a bit and started way too many ‘jealousy’ arguments with her. I really want to get back.

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Why do you have trust issues?Have you been hurt before??
If so wouldnt it be better solving these problems first before you get involved in any kind of relationship?

verifiedlobbie wrote:
@abimbolashoga4 - true i did that, and she knows that my ex is not that type of person that would get back too. But she can help.

@Angie :) - i mean shes been the right one for me, i just messed up a bit and started way too many ‘jealousy’ arguments with her. I really want to get back.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Does her telling me that she kissed a guy in a party , and then starts texting him until now count as being hurt? Because i see him everywhere. She says shes not that type of girl that would do such thing, i just dont see her trustable. We both loved eachother and thats for a fact. The thing is weve always been arguing on stuff like “stop liking guys status that says ‘LMS for a rate’” or something similar. We would also argue on things like “I dont see you everyday, maybe like once a week” and so so thats similar to this. Can someone see where im going, does anyone know how i feel? I stayed up so late last night, and i just send her this :

listen , i miss you soo much right now, ive been tearing you dont know how many times. I just miss you alot and like things are the not the same when your not around. You were my baby, and that cant get out of my heat. I dont know what went wrong besides arguments, but only if you can change your mind back, i would love you till the end im feeling sad,in love with you like always, and confused. I couldnt sleep for the whole night/ please , i… See All
You were my baby, and that cant get out of my heart*
and i know how u said once you said you’ve made your mind , you dont go back, well i hope things can change between us, i reallly miss ourselves being together.
i mean i dont feel clingy and all. But im just expressing out my heart to you ~ hope you read this, sincerely with love your ex!

This is all im gonna say pretty much, because i can’t express it out more, if you have time, please listen to this 3-song playlist : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1s2CG…

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (32 minutes after post)

So your telling me in the last couple of months shes kissed another guy??
AND YOU WANT TO BE WITH THAT!
What happens down the road when she decides to go further &sleep with the guy how will you react then?
Will you roll over &take it?

Trust me you may be hurting now but she aint worth it, babe.
You need a girl who will devote all her attention &love on you not someone whos willing to share it with every tom **** &harry!

You guys need to seperate &fast.

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verifiedlobbie offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (37 minutes after post)

nono she kissed a guy before we dated. and like shes that type of person whos insecure about herself so i know she wouldnt sleep in bed with another guy until shes like 18. Thats what she told me

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Tell me why do you have trust issues regarding yourself?

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verifiedlobbie offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (45 minutes after post)

i dont know anymoree now… i really dont :/ My friends tell me “just because of that, theres no need to stop trying;just dont try to force her to like you”
But i mean i dont know about trust issues , its just me :/

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (49 minutes after post)

Have you been cheated on before? Do you feel like you dont measure up??

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verifiedlobbie offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (50 minutes after post)

i really dont know anymore, her friends tell me to not stop trying, and that i can really do this if i wanted to and do! But the thing is should i try to get back now, or leave it for a while.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (52 minutes after post)

I’ve kinda liked a girl when i was dating her. And then i stopped liking her, and things got worse with my girl. I guess this is karma :/

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (58 minutes after post)

I dont think its a case of karma babe more like a learning curve.
You have to fish for quite a while until you find the right catch. :)
We cant help who we fall for.

I do think its time you thought long &hard what you really want out of this relationship,are you willing to let her have other male friends if not then its better to let her go.

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verifiedlobbie offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

i mean , all girls have male friends. Whats wrong with that. rightt?

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Yep, not all bfs have trust issues though babe.
Can you control your jealousy?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

i could i really could. I’ve just been like thinking too hard , i’m pretty sure if i get back to her there will be no jealousy intended.

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

She said “she dont get back with any of her x’s”

My instinct teels me this is wrong, however, its not me whos in love with the girl so I say ask for another chance.
Tell her you will try &control your jelousy, if she starts txn other people or behaves promiscuously around lads, give her the boot.
Dont accept 2nd best!

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verifiedlobbie offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

thanks Angie :) helped a lot today! will hope everything works though , cause i really love her. Its not that i want to get back to have someone, i want to get back cause i really like her. But thanks to everyone also :)

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Angie. offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

No probs! I sincerely hope it works out for you to, if not you know were I am.
Ill be your shoulder anytime. *hug*

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