feelings help: Im trying to figure out if my married boss has feelings for me. - Help.com

I think you should spend this much time getting out of your unhappy marriage.

You seem to know the answer to your first question and also the answer to what you should do. I recommend you don’t have an affair. Avoid that at all costs.

Just because your marriage is failing, doesn’t mean you should be the motive for someone elses failed marriage.

Don’t pursue anything unless he is single. If you don’t, you’re probably going to destroy someones life.

I was going to say something similar to A-cortex but I realize, just do whatever makes you happy, screw everyone else, if it’s something you want go for it, or at least try, I would like a better understanding of your current marriage but with the limited knowledge of the subject, I would just say do whatever makes you happy. Throw some hint’s out his way to and ask him straight out. Do you have feelings for me ? sometimes being blunt is good, he will be quick to tell you if he likes your or not and that will answer the question, now if he feels like he’s on the spot he might lie so invite him out for a “work related” lunch and get him comfortable before you ask. Bring it up lightly don’t make it all serious without making it seem like your joking either. This is just my own opinion that’s all.

If you are meant to be with this guy, you will find the situation easy to flow into. Some how all the ‘obstacles’ would be removed or not be present at all. In your case he is married (probably with kids too), you are married, and he is your boss. The whole idea of infedelity is wrong and will haunt both of you for the rest of your lives. Why? because once the ‘feelings’ are out of the way, reality strikes and bites real hard. This includes causing hurt to so many people/ children involved.

In no way, should you encourage this relationship because of your feelings or his feelings. You have no idea of how his marriage is going nor what intentions he has with you. Yes, you got problems within your marriage but looking elsewhere will only complicate everything in your life.

I would suggest you focus on your marriage. Avoid situations whereby you feel tempted by him. I don’t see why you need to go for another job especially if things have not gone too far between you two. You can avoid this and turn everything will back to normal at work, if you really want to.

Red flags all over. Both of you are married AND working at the same place: your future endevour with him is already doomed to death. I understand you are unhappy in your marriage and most likely he is not satisfied in his either. Flirting always leads to having an affair, online or in person.
Since you didn’t start anything yet, let it be that way. If he wants to start something with you, tell him you are working on your own marriage, which you should do. Either go with your hb counseling, or start the divorce process. That’s the first thing you should do for yourself.

No, you are not a bad person. That’s also good you have already an appointment but if I were you, I would not tell anyone about the feelings you have experienced at work. You can tell that your husband’s drug problem and if it is unresolved or you can’t see he does make an effort to do something about it, will eventually end your marriage. He needs to know that. It is better said in the presence of the third party which is the counselor.
Regarding your boss: I am sure he likes you a LOT, but he hadn’t done anything to end his marriage either rightfully where he belongs emotionally, physically and monetarily. There is such a thing of two people liking each other while married to someone but it takes a hell of a lot not to let emotions overcome and ruin everyone’s life. If I were you in your situation, I would not give my boss green light to go one step further: like staring back for a long time. I would be professional, no matter how my feelings were inside me.

he’s trying to seduce you.