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I have been married for 25 years and I found out my wife is sending/talking dirty to some guy and they meet twice but I dont belive there was any sex. I have talked to her and we went to marriage counseling but the trust and respect I had for her is not coming back. I cant seem to forgive. What should I do?

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Sir Tannen offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 115 #
Emeryville, CA, US | 1 year, 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Sounds terribly suspicious.

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ilivelife offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Did the counselling help at all?

Do you feel things are improving - have you got any of the trust back since you first found out?

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Sir Tannen offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 115 #
Emeryville, CA, US | 1 year, 4 months ago (52 minutes after post)

Fortunes Fool wrote:
sorry to say but she probably is sleeping with him if they meet up…i’d just leave her if i were you ..get back the little respect you have decide you deserve better and to be loved, truly loved and leave her and don’t look back you have your whole life she did you a favor b/c 25 is still young

He said married for 25 years, I doubt he got married when he was born, which means hes probably about 45 at this point.

But yeah, he still has half a life left.

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Mariam* offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour after post)

If you want to make your marriage work, continue counseling and TRY to forgive her. She should also be trying to show you that she wants to regain your trust and respect.

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letitgo1234 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

Yes the counselling helped.
I do think that things are geting better but just because I’m learning how to deal with it.
I realy do not beleive that she had Sex with Him but thats just me always the optomist.
I we have kids I dont want to let go.
I’m 46 with her for 26 - Married for 20.

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MortallyWounded edited this post 1 year, 4 months ago. Read the previous text »

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I have been married for 25 years and I found out my wife is sending/talking dirty to some guy and they meet twice but I dont belive there was any sex. I have talked to her and we went to marriage counseling but the trust and respect I had for her is not coming back. I cant seam to forgive. What should I do?

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