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In the West, herbal medicines are not used for treating depression. I do not know if they would be very effective. I do know that some herbal medicines, however, can interfere with the proper function of other drugs.

I wish that you could see a doctor who could treat you with more conventional medicines.

But you are right. Your parents need to be more supportive. The problem is, parents don’t like to see their children sick. And they often believe that you can simply “cast off” an illness if you really want to.

Positive thinking can help, but very often people with depression need medication to get them through a rough spot.

Tell your father and mother that depression is like “indigestion of the brain.” It’s a chemical imbalance, often low serotonin levels. Ask them if they would deny you medicine if you had “indigestion of the stomach.” Surely they would not! They would not deny you Gas-X or Tums or Pepto-Bismol, or whatever remedies were available to settle an upset stomach!

Ask your parents to bear with you a little while longer. And research some more conventional therapies using drugs recognized for treating depression.

You can get a quick boost from drinking two cups of hot tea or coffee in succession, but you will probably need some drug treatment for a while.

I hope you get some relief really soon!

Glad the Chinese medicine is helping! I’m not an expert on these things, but I believe that “folk” medicine can sometimes be a great help!

Often, it’s an emotional event that “sticks” in our psyche and that is the root cause of depression. Is there anything that has happened in your life that could account for your depression? When you can talk about such a thing, it loses its power over you. Repressed, it gains power over a person beyond all endurance!

Your dad is wrong about vitamin supplements. They are not a “cure” for anything except vitamin deficiencies.

Talk to him. Tell him you need his–and your mother’s–help to get well. And the sooner you get well, the sooner you will be able to contribute to your family!

There are tons of people whose parents didn’t fully appreciate them, encourage them or nurture them.

In my own case, I could have won a Nobel prize and all my father would have said is, “That’s nice, son.”

So, what you have to do is to develop a sense of self-assurance. When you do something good, you should be able to step back, look at it, and say, “You know, that’s pretty good!” It shouldn’t matter if anyone else on the planet recognizes it as good, so long as YOU know that it is good.

There are artists and writers who were not honored in their own lifetimes, but who have been recognized today for the geniouses they were.

You will also find that most people judge YOUR potential by THEIR limitations. You must not ACCEPT their skewed evalations.

There’s another thing. Your parents, relatives and friends don’t want to see their loved ones get hurt. So they’ll often discourage you from trying something that is challenging. Why? They want to spare you the pain of any possible failure.

The key, again, is self-assurance. When you go out to do something, you have to think of yourself as Doc Holliday, walking toward the OK Corral. You have to believe you’re the biggest, baddest gunfighter in the West, and you’re going to prevail, no matter what the odds. Doc Holliday went to the OK Corral self-assured that he was the fastest, most accurate gunslinger who ever lived. And, subsequently, he stood alongside the Earps and shot the daylights out of the Clanton gang (apologies to the descendants of the Clantons, who dispute some of the actual events).

Anyway . . . work on developing that self-assurance that YOU are OK, even great. YOU are a worthwhile person. YOU are going to have a beautiful life!

Talk to your parents again and again, as calmly and rationally as you can. And don’t take anything they say personally. You are going to exceed their wildest expectations–and your own!

Evaluations!

Living at home with your parents won’t last forever. One day you will be on your own.

And, while I cannot excuse everything that parents do, when you are older you will find it amazing that people function as well as they do after being “beaten up by the world”!

The key, again, is to not accept unjustified criticism and to always get up if you get knocked down!

You’ll be gone before you know it . . . and, as you get older, you will have more sympathy for your parents’ imperfections! ;-)