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Me and my partner(ex) recently broke up, but are still living together, and there is no way of getting out of the contract for a minimum of two months!
I’m not really sure of what is the best option to do, because at the moment I am closing myself off a lot and just trying to spend time alone, I still love him so very much, and want to be with him, but i know it’s not the right option.
We broke up because of arguements, and him becoming violent towards me, once to the extent of being in hospital, each time, he appologised and said he would get some help with dealing with his problems and that he loves me and wants us to work everything out as a couple, but still he hasnt been to get help and he’s continued to shout, scream and violently hurt me.
Everything i say to him gets twisted and i’m just told that im being negative or uncaring/unsupportive, and that im worthless. It makes it so that i dont know what to do or say :S I just want to be good enough, to feel the love back that i feel for him.
I dont want to constantly live in fear of being hurt or shouted at, and i dont want to constantly isolate myself, in order to stop myself wanting to be with him - he’s mentioned wanting me back and to work on things, but i know it is the wrong thing to do, due to the violence previously.
prior to the violence and the arguements, we got on perfectly, we were so close and comfortable together, we talked to each other about everything and offered support/advice and general day to day care/affection, we had a normal/good sex life, we kept ourselves busy, and worked through everything together. We would tell each other about all the things we love about each other, and we’d write little notes to one another, and snuggle up with movies etc. I dont know why it suddenly changed or what happened. We’ve spoke about it several times, but cant seem to agree on reasoning :S
In short, i want to know how i can live in the same place as him, comfortably and relatively happily, until i can leave the tenancy contract here and move somewhere away from him, because the more that im here, the more that i want to work on things with him and get back to being close.
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