Love help: i was with a guy for almost a year, - Help.com

I’m sry:/ There are a lot of assholes out there…and I know it’s SUPER hard, but you really can’t take this personally. His personal opinions about you or your relationship have NOTHING to do with you as a person or your sense of self. It was just a clever disguise. A lot of people do this. How could you be so foolish? I wouldn’t call it foolish. I would say you did everything right and how could HE be so foolish to throw it away and be so cruel? Stop trying to blame yourself and shift the blame to where it belongs - on him. If he really was using you and everything, then he’s the one to blame. Otherwise, things just didn’t work out and it’s nobody’s fault….just the way things work.

And you still have time! I know people that have had at least 8 ex’s and after each breakup they say the same thing “nobody ever treated me like she did” ….no kidding! That’s why you fell for that person in the first place:P If they treated you like everyone else, they wouldn’t be special. That concept defines a relationship….which means the next relationship will carry the SAME feeling. You WILL find someone who will treat you like nobody ever has…especially better than this last person, because even though you think he treated you well…he really treated you like crap.

So don’t worry! You’ve got to take a little time out to get over these feelings and regain your confidence, and then jump back on both feet and head back out into the world brave and ready to take on the next guy who will make you forget about this past loser.

Now smile! And say…yeah! **** straight:P lol

Wow, I keep telling people, there is only one race…..the human race! It is sad some people dwell on color. Still my heart breaks for you. It is hard to suffer loss and to trust and be stepped on for it. Been there…. Don’t give up, don’t harden your heart and don’t think badly about yourself. We ALL make mistakes and have regrets, that is part of life. What makes it bad is when we don’t forgive ourselves for it. Go do something fun (that’s legal!) and get some excercise (even just a walk outdoors) it will make you feel better and get those positive endorphines flowing in your body. Stop dwelling on it and do something with friends or family it will help to take your mind off of it.

Aren’t you glad you are not with that pig-ignorant-scumbag anymore?
I feel very sorry for his new girl.

Please don’t believe anything he said. Always remember: Hurting People Hurt People. He must have terrible issues within him to behave like this.

Instead of blaming yourself and feeling hurt buy it, tell yourself, Good Riddance!

Black is Beautiful! (((Hug)))

have high self esteem before you start dating people. otherwise you will use the relationship as a crutch for your self worth. you do what ever makes you happy though. the only persons opinion of you that really matters to you, is yourself. Remind yourself of what you want to be, and go do it. GL.