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The world isn’t designed to have everyone hold your hand, it’s no one’s responsibility other than your own to make your life what you want it to be. Don’t look to others to support you, they need to support themselves too. If you want to get anywhere, if you want the motivation, the will power, then get it yourself.

hi, well there are people here so you are not alone. seek medical help for depression. seek places and activities where you can meet people.

Dr. Jackson wrote:
The world isn’t designed to have everyone hold your hand, it’s no one’s responsibility other than your own to make your life what you want it to be. Don’t look to others to support you, they need to support themselves too. If you want to get anywhere, if you want the motivation, the will power, then get it yourself.

That feels rather harsh. If I were capable of doing this. I wouldn’t have needed to post. Not everyone can do everything on there own.

Well it was suppose to be, but at the same time I was hoping to get you to understand that if right now seems like it sucks, then you should be ready to face the fact you’re going to have to deal with it your whole life.

Now that doesn’t mean suicide s the answer, it just means you have to realize it’s going to suck, and while yes there will be times where life is awesome, there will always be times when tough decisions and hardship are lurking in the shadows. If you want to make a good life, you can’t just hope someone is always going to be there for you, you have to be there for yourself.

One thing my father told me was that “You don’t have to worry about others and whats happening in their life, you only have to worry about yourself. You can’t make decisions for them, you can only make decisions for yourself. So take care of yourself first.”

It’s the cold hard truth, and while it may sound cruel, it really is the truth. Obviously one could make the argument of kids, but we both know that message doesn’t apply to someone that can’t take care of themselves, it applies to those that have the capacity to take care of themselves and just need to accept it.

Actually Dr Jackson has a good point

The problem with depression is you feel like you NEED help from other people. You feel like a victim and no one is rescuing you.

Unfortunately, this makes you a very selfish and draining person to be around and it typically results in people not wanting to be around you. EVERYONE has their own problems however great their life seems. They don’t need to be dragged down by the depression of other people.

The good news is you can free yourself of depression by recognizing that you DO NOT need help from other people. When you choose to stop being passive, you are no longer a victim.

Depression happens this way:

you are anxious - to avoid feeling anxious you avoid dealing with problems - you give up - you isolate yourself - you retreat from anxiety and stress - the more you retreat the more you want that feeling of relief from retreating - you become passive - you stop taking risks - you become a victim - the world becomes something that happens TO you instead of because of you - you feel depressed - you’ve developed a habit of running away and quitting and isolating - the only “running away” left is running away from life - you start thinking about suicide

See the chain of events? You can reverse depression by reversing that chain of events. That means facing fears, taking risks, celebrating tiny accomplishments, and treating anxiety as just a sensation… not as anything real. Because anxiety is not real. It’s just adrenaline racing through you. The world does not change based on how panicky you feel.

Unfortunately, the brain is a chemical computer. That means your perception of the world depends on your chemistry… and your chemistry changes radically based on your thoughts, diet, exercise, and coping habits.

You can reprogram your brain and get out of depression. The first step is making the choice to do so.

Hun I have been there, but dont let it get you down. YOU ARE A BADASS. you will be fine by yourself cause deep down you know you have the power, you just need to find it. Start a new hobbie, something that makes you happy? For example, I feel so good when Im drawing and when I feel sad the only thing I need to do is draw and it light me up :) You wont always have friends in life.. You have to learn to be strong and be fine when you are alone.. You will meet new people soon, im 100% sure! Just remember there is nothing you can’t do! Just believe in yourself :) Maybe get a pet? A cat or a dog? They help you know.. Its like they know how you feel and you wont be lonely :)

No one is ever really alone, keep faith that all is well. And it shall be.