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My boyfriend and I have been living together for 1 year and 6 months.
I’ve noticed that he is very negative. His automatic thought is negative. He swears a lot, and focuses more on logistics of the day to day stuff, and not enough of the emotional connection between us. He is also very critical, for example: he insinuates that I am lazy because he feels I sleep too much, which I don’t. I have good sleeping habits, I need 8 hrs of sleep, while he goes to bed at 1pm, I can be in bed by 10pm, and wake up at 8am. I feel very depressed because he can be very sweet, and affectionate but at the same time very moody, critical, and sarcastic. He also disagrees with what I say; even a comment about the weather. I don’t want to lose him out of my life because I love him, maybe even as a good friend or brother, but i feel I need someone more uplifting, optimistic, and supportive. He can be those things at some points, but my stomach hurts many times, and I am having panick attacks. I am also afraid that I will not find someone that I love as much as him if I choose to move out. I cry each day, and go from wanting us to be friends to wanting to be with him. But the thought of living like this for the next 60 yrs doesn’t sit well with me. The thought of being alone doesn’t either. Please help.
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