older help: my wife is 4years older than me,how do i handle her becouse all - Help.com

For sure the reason for your marriage problems is NOT this little age difference!
For how long are you married? Why did you marry? Are there things which join you up?

nobody can make you mad, this madness comes from ‘your’ beliefs and thoughts towards her, have you stopped seeing the good? age gap is the best thing to blame it on if you must, using the age gap as an excuse means no particular person is to blame or attempt to improve , its flawless. but if you believe that then you have set the relationship up for failing you will spend all our time looking for pitfalls, dont try to understand everything she doe’s a woman’s mind is like an emotional roller coaster sometimes, why would you want to spend all day on that.

Is your wife acting selfishly secretly and manipulative and setting traps for you?

Age is not an objective issue here. Age is being used by both of you as a weapon. You need to start relating to eachother as adults. Express your desires, wants, hopes intentions as clearly as possible. Have adult conversations at an appropriate time of day.

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You may be 23 years on this earth but you sound like your mind hasn’t matured past 16.
Look, you can’t control what other people do or say. You only have control of your actions. So reverse the situation. Put yourself in her shoes. What would she want you to do or say?