Love help: I need someone to slap me and tell me that the guy I like doesn’t like me back, and nor will he ever like me.

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I need someone to slap me and tell me that the guy I like doesn’t like me back, and nor will he ever like me.

I need someone to take a hold of me and shake me. I *need* to realise that he only really properly speaks to me when he feels lonely or wants something from me.

I need someone to yell at me until I understand that the “chemistry” that I feel isn’t chemistry at all. It’s just the charm he has that has left several girls to fall for him. I don’t want to be “just another one”.

I can’t find the balance with him and he won’t let me either. Recently he’s been feeling very lonely so he’s been treating me so special, talking to me everyday for several hours a day and being so affectionate and adorable.

And now he’s ignoring me because I guess he feels guilty for leading me on. For making me think he likes me too. He’ll never like me. Why can’t I just understand that?

Everytime I go to someone with this problem, they tell me to block him out of my life. I would do that, truly I would. I’ve tried that except he’d always hunt me down somehow and then make me feel lovely again. We also share the same friends and so it’s impossible to be with them and not him at the same time.

I just need to realise that he’ll never want me and that I should move on. I need to stamp these feelings out of me. Ugh, it hurts to see him and not be *with* him. Blah. Watch as we lament about being single on Valentine’s Day tomorrow. Actually, he’ll probably spend the whole time talking about his ex who he still cares for.

-sigh-

No love for me. Well, that’s untrue, I’m just being a bitter girl.

I just need a wake up call. I need to move on and move away.

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Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

ok - here goes
*slap*
now don’t settle for the crumbs he offers. you have a lot to offer and if he is interested in you…make him work. He can’t treat you badly, unless you let him.

So don’t settle for this kind of behavior where he treats you like a back-up plan.

there is a guy out there that will see you as the valuable young woman you are. don’t settle for less.

SparklySparkly 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Z-Anonymous wrote:
ok - here goes
*slap*
now don’t settle for the crumbs he offers. you have a lot to offer and if he is interested in you…make him work. He can’t treat you badly, unless you let him.

So don’t settle for this kind of behavior where he treats you like a back-up plan.

there is a guy out there that will see you as the valuable young woman you are. don’t settle for less.

Thank you. I needed that.

If he truly cares for me, as a friend or more, he needs to show it. I’m not going to chase him like a puppy dog anymore.

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Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

SparklySparkly wrote:

Z-Anonymous wrote:
ok - here goes
*slap*
now don’t settle for the crumbs he offers. you have a lot to offer and if he is interested in you…make him work. He can’t treat you badly, unless you let him.

So don’t settle for this kind of behavior where he treats you like a back-up plan.

there is a guy out there that will see you as the valuable young woman you are. don’t settle for less.

Thank you. I needed that.

If he truly cares for me, as a friend or more, he needs to show it. I’m not going to chase him like a puppy dog anymore.

I’m cheering for you….can you hear the crowd cheering. Good for you. I think you will find when you don’t spend so much emotion on him…you might actually have room in your life for a new wonderful guy who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve.

Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 days, 10 hours after post)

it’s your own insecurity and low self-esteem that is letting you remain in this situation. you’re afraid that what little crumbs he does give you is the only thing you’ll ever really feel and thus you are desperate to not give it up. you tie your hope with being with this guy as your hope of finding love, and that’s why you can’t leave. you know he doesn’t like you. so why do you choose to go after someone who has no interest for you? because you think it’s better than nothing.

it’s not better than nothing. the longer you stay with this guy, and the longer you stay infatuated with a person who does not love you and is too weak to respect you properly as a friend, the more warped your ability to find a healthy relationship becomes.

until you realize that relationships are more than “feeling lovely” and having “chemistry” and being treated “special”, you’re heading down a road that is leading you away from a happy, healthy relationship that you truly are searching for. i know you’re going to say that you already know that about relationships, but what you’re doing is opening your heart up for a relationship every time he sweet talks you, and i’m saying you should be aware that making you blush isn’t a good enough reason to warrant that. you’re allowing hope to blossom, and so you cannot accept that he does not want you.

sweet talking and flirting can be meaningless, and here they are. next time that hope swells, remind yourself that you should demand more from a relationship than mere charm.

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