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If this isn’t the first time he himself has done this to you, make sure you don’t let it happen again: you deserve better than him and if he ever tries to get back with you again don’t give in (or at least I wouldn’t if I were you). If he was still in love with his ex but started a relationship with you anyway, that was cruel and selfish of him, he isn’t worth your tears even if you do still have feelings for him. Let all your emotions out in private; listen to cheesy break-up songs, tear up old cards and letters, whatever you need to do. But don’t let him see you upset, ever, because it’ll just boost his ego by showing him what effect he can have on someone. Try to distract yourself with friends and clubs as much as you can, and remember that there are always more fish in the sea. Good luck and ciao :-)
No its the fifth time anyone has done this to me :( my last four boyfriends all used me as rebbounds…i can’t believe i was stupid enough to do this :/
That’s mean of them :-/ you’re not stupid, douchbags will be douchebags unfortunately. At worst you’re very trusting, which in itself is a good thing but it’s something that people can take advantage of, but to be honest you’re probably just very unlucky at the moment. Don’t blame yourself, I’m sure you’re lovely, and there’s someone for everyone in the world. It might be better to wait until you know you can fully trust somebody to be truthful and you’re good friends before you get fully involved if you weren’t already, but otherwise it’s all about judging whether or not something will work on a case-by-case basis. Good luck :-)
problem is this guy hangs around with my friends we all sit together at lunch at college we’ve been best friends for ages :/ i just don’t know how its going to be. he’s not a bad guy i don’t think…which makes it worse. if he was a douche i could just leave it at that, he’s the relationship guy, the nice guy…aand even he didn’t want me.
Maybe he is a nice guy outside of relationships, but what he did to you was douchebag-y, and sometimes it can make it harder to move on if you still think of your ex as nice for a while after the relationship ends. He didn’t want you, but that’s not because there’s anything wrong with you; that would be like saying a piece of a jigsaw puzzle is broken because it won’t fit with another random piece. Everyone has people they ‘click’ with and people they don’t, on different levels, and it’s not because of how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ a person is. If you needed to be perfect to have someone fall in love with you, we’d all be alone haha :-) maybe the people you’ve been with so far haven’t quite been right for you, so you just need to wait until you find the one who will be perfect to you. Perhaps in time you’ll be good friends with your ex, but it’s usually better to have a clean break and keep contact to a minimum for a while afterwards. Well anyways if that’s you in your icon you’re very pretty, and you seem like a nice person, so don’t think there’s anything wrong with you :-)
He broke up with you the day before valentines day, I am thinking he is a cheap twat and didn’t buy you anything and that is why he dumped you.
If he tried to get back with you the day after valentines or close enough then if I were you, you should tell him where to stick it.
he said he did it because i emailed him this afternoon about a surprise i had planned and he didn’t want to lead me on
anonymous, i do get what you mean but i just don’t seem to be girlfriend material and thinking maybe i should just accept it.
There’s no such thing as ‘girlfriend material’ though, everyone is an individual and we all have certain characteristics that we look for in other people, and there will be people you will meet who will think you’re perfect and love you for who you are :-). It was his problem that he hadn’t quite moved on from his ex
Everyone is girlfriend material. You just have to find the right guy. I think he is just too cheap to do anything for Valentines Day too. I mean really what kind of jerk breaks up the day before Valentines? I bet he didn’t get his ex anything either.
starting to think its just not worth it….i;m lying in bed its 8 in the morning and i can’t get up or switch my brain off i feel horrible :( really hurts. moreso to do with the fact that i saw this coming…and that i know he’ll find someone else within a month or so and i’ll be alone for ages
You may feel like this now, but if your friends have any respect for you, they’ll see how big of a smuck or douche he really is.
Better to know now and I’m sorry it hurts.
It’s just another day and another experience.
He may find someone, but they’ll hurt too.
Things will be better:) You’re gorgeous and the right one is shy, let them come to you:)
:( Sorry to hear this snowwhite. You know if this man can move on within a month or so, he is not for you, for he is shallow and I know you deserve more than this. A good man will come in good time, I am sure love. In the meantime, focus your energies else where, such as your studies. Love lots, X
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (13 hours, 34 minutes after post)
he said he did it because i emailed him this afternoon about a surprise i had planned and he didn’t want to lead me on…
Lead you on?
He was your boyfriend, there was nothing to lead on.
Basically he had nothing for you and dumped you before he had to buy anything.
Least he had the decency to finish with you before he took your gifts.
Some men are so predictable.
You are better off without him, just don’t take him back.
i’m okay now i think….i kept crying but texted him just explaining how i felt and that while i wanted to be friend it would need time.
@lazymccoolbeans yeah, because i planned all this stuff and he didn’t feel the same way
he was with his girlfriend for six months before me and she’s really pretty and tbh i’m a pretty **** girlfriend so i can’t blame him for that…..i hate myself more than anything right now.
i always ruin it.
I was listening to the radio this morning and they were saying more couples break up right before Valentines Day and Christmas than any other time of the year. It really is about not buying presents for a lot of people. They also said this was the busiest day of the year for private detectives because people who are having affairs always get their lover a gift and go see them today. Then they get busted…
i can see that logic but i think he’s spending today with his ex girlfriend..well new, so guess thetheory doesn’t apply :/
Your not stupid , but try and learn from these mis steps , , He’s out there and you’ll know it when you find him and the fire works go off inside you , don’t beat yourself up , pick yourself up and get back in the game , never let a guy or girl dictate how you have to live your life !!!! You’ll be fine …………….
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