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There’s nobody left…

I only have 2 people who I would consider by best friends and they’re a couple, one of whom likes me more than his partner (and I like him too… it’s the typical forbidden love scenario) and the other of whom has been my best friend for years and, naturally, am very jealous of.

All my family, other than my mum, dad and brother are dead. Although both of my parents are disabled and my brother is at university.

I’ve been depressed for as long as I can remember but it was my friends that kept me going… now I feel like there’s nothing left. I live for making people happy but there’s no-one left to make happy. I have social anxiety so I can’t easily go out and make friends. It’s hard for me to even show my ugly face in public, let alone meet and socialise with new people…

I’m stuck. I guess I’m just ranting but whatever…. Help?

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CorpseFire offline Verified User (2 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (8 minutes after post)

well….seems like a typical problem for most people that have anxiety. i had that at once point and i agree, its not easy making friends. but at the same time your believing that its hard. its really not once you see the big picture

if you can impress people to the point that they ask your name then your in. simple as that. i doubt you have an ugly face, you may be just a little insecure. i dont usually like telling people to use pills but anti depressants may help. just be spontaneous. people will love you for that

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1 year, 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I probably should have mentioned: I’m 14… I’m starting to feel like I just can’t cope. I have no peace at home nor at school nor anywhere else in the world. Even my dreams taunt me… I’m at a loss.

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linuxya offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Social anxiety just means you need more practice.

Read “how to start a conversation and make friends” by Don gabor

Deal with your anxiety directly instead of using it as an excuse. Read “anxiety & phobia workbook” by Edmund Bourne

Make new friends weekly. It’s easy to do. Just help OTHER people feel relaxed. The more you focus on helping them relax, the more you forget about your own worries.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

seriously its all timing my Anonymous friend. just be patient and let things come to you, start a hobby of yours and let people find out who YOU are. i have hundreds of friends but i dont see them often. i play video games lol. you can play online games and poeple there wont judge you, thats how i got rid of my anxiety

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1 year, 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

if you like making people happy you could work as a volunteer in an organisation! A friend told me once: If you are really sad and on the floor - start helping others. Because when you see, there are people outside who have also big troubles, are depressed or lonely - you will feel: you are NOT alone. nearly everyone has his/hers daemons and problems to solve. And helping other people gives you a strong feeling of being “needed” and precious. Don’t forget: YOU ARE PRECIOUS!!!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (13 hours, 50 minutes after post)

join a volunteering club at your school.

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