Person help: I hate everything about myself. - Help.com

I know how you feel. I started but working on one thing at a time like i am back in school even though i am old now. and i will take a self defense class soon just pick one thing about yourself that you dont like and see if you can work on it, make a list. If you cant do anything about that one thing at the moment work on the next thing on your list it sounds really simplistic but i can work. It might also help if you can find someone who is always compleatly honest with you but not in a hurtful way . That way when you ask them something and they give an opinion you will have an easier tim believing what they say . I am going through the same thing right now I know how you feel and I really hope this helps. :)

What are the qualities that you don’t like about yourself? List all that you can here: perhaps I can help you.

I am a female.
I hate everything about my appearance, hair in the wrong places, so pale it shocks me when I glance in the mirror sometimes, odd sized breasts and just everything.
I hate my personality, how I switch from being hyper to happy to low and depressed ( and no I do not take drugs.) I hate how I know people love me for who I am and yet I throw it all back in their face by hating myself.
I hate how I know I couldn’t commit suicide because I know people will miss me and I couldn’t do that to them, because it makes me feel selfish and self-centered.

And I hate how whiney I feel when I talk about it.

I know there are places in the mall that will do your make up for free just to give you an idea , self tanning lotions maybe will help. I dont really know how it is to be love for who you are (except by my childre and I ruined that by letting them be hurt ) so I cant help with that. But if you have people Who you KNOW really love you and you have not killed anyone maybe counseling would help.

Anonymous wrote:
I am a female.
I hate everything about my appearance, hair in the wrong places, so pale it shocks me when I glance in the mirror sometimes, odd sized breasts and just everything.
I hate my personality, how I switch from being hyper to happy to low and depressed ( and no I do not take drugs.) I hate how I know people love me for who I am and yet I throw it all back in their face by hating myself.
I hate how I know I couldn’t commit suicide because I know people will miss me and I couldn’t do that to them, because it makes me feel selfish and self-centered.

And I hate how whiney I feel when I talk about it.

About your appearance my advice is to: get over it. I’m not going to even humor that, as it’s no reason whatsoever to dislike yourself or anyone around you. Learn to accept your looks. I have small breasts and a pale complextion. I am short and small and thin like a twig. But you know what? I realized a long time ago that I’m still beautiful, no matter how I look. I learned that when it comes down to it, looks go away and cease to matter: what matters throughout your entire life is what’s in your mind.

In regards to your personality: if you don’t like it, then it isn’t yours. Find the strength to pull yourself out of your slump of pointless self-loathing and find yourself by whatever means necissary. It doesn’t matter if your friends and family think you’re awesome, if you don’t think the same then their praise is meaningless. Figure out what you are passionate about and let that grow.

And before you say “it’s not that easy” or “I can’t do that”, know this: I was in the same place as you are when I was 15, and I did it. I brought myself out of the slump when I could see nothing but darkness in my life. You can do it, too. If you want to. No one else can fix you, you have to fi yourself.

heres a trick. develop an awesome ego and become full of it.. that way you can end up loving yourself regardless what others think. give yourself a nickname like “serenity” or something that appeals to you and get in character.. beats the ” who am I, why am I even here ” persona

Google “perfectionism disorder”

Stop comparing your life to some unattainable ideal.

Take tiny steps daily to go after what’s important to you. Focus on the tiny steps. Celebrate each time you achieve one. When you get stuck, break a tiny step down into 8 smaller steps.

Honestly, I’ve changed my life radically and risen above so many challenges…. challenges other people thought would destroy me, and that I thought would destroy me as well.

Depression comes from stopping taking risks and being a passive victim in life. When you make the choice to be an active person who takes tiny risks, who says no to the things that hold you back, and yes to the things that take you in the directions you want… depression disappears and you stop being so self-centred and gloomy.