Love help: I have feelings for 2 people! - Help.com

I would treat them as two completely unrelated topics.

If it’s not working out with your current boyfriend, leave him. I would, given that you argue so much.

If you want to give this other guy a shot, go for it, but try to take it slow because you’re not waiting very long between relationships…

Of course, don’t choose both.

I think you need to be on your own for 18 months.

“the majority of time were arguing. He lost a lot of friends because of me as he was my EX’s friend, so I always feel guilty”

Sounds like a bad relationship.

“A few months into the relationship I met a guy. He’s at uni and lives 200 miles away. We kissed. We text all the time.”

So your “relationship” with your boyfriend is not a committed relationship, is it? You never gave 100% to your boyfriend. You maintain a fantasy about someone who is better… a fantasy because he lives 200 mi away and you don’t actually have to live day to day life with him.

Your problem isn’t choosing between the two. Your problem is you. Spend 18 months single to get to know yourself better and get your head on straight. Learn how to date properly instead of setting up these ridiculous situations for yourself.

Date as many people as you like and be clear with them it’s non-exclusive. Until you are ready to be vulnerable with one person and commit to one person, don’t even think about relationships.

You really ought to break it off with your current boyfriend. If you’re in a closed relationship, you’re not being faithful at all. You’re emotionally cheating on him. If you’re in an open relationship, you clearly are having trouble committing to him, so it wouldn’t work out.