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My boyfriend of a month has not talked to me for a week because I upset him.

It started the day after valentines he had my gift displayed on some heart celophane a plate of cookies on top of that he made a red bow he bought and 2 heart champagne flutes. The next day I gathered up my cookies and left he said your not taking the celophane or bow I said no. Well I guess that hurt his feelings a week later of not talking to me he says that I treated his gift like trash wanting to throw away the celophane and bow? He said I acted unappreciative after saying thank you i love it all the previous day. I apologized and told him I did not do that to be mean or rude. I dont want to lose him I love him what should I do?

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alatif offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Tell him that your apology was sincere and that if you had known your not taking those things would have upset him you would have left with them. However, you never and he was hurt and you have apologised.
Then tell him that it is now the end of the matter. He has had one week of being moody and as much as you love him you both need to forgive and forget.
If he can’t or he continues to try and lay false guilt on you, just get out. End the relationship. Its cruel to be kind. You’ll hurt for a bit, but you will be doing the right thing for yourself in the long term.
His reaction is an over reaction and the fact that you have apologised already shows that he can control you through your feelings/laying on false guilt. If hes genuinely hurt (which is just so trivial over wrapping paper) he has had time to heal.
My question is “Who does he think he is to punish you by refusing contact for a week?!”
Honey, the writing is on the wall already. Get out. Don’t allow a moody man to take control.

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sugarbucket24 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (31 minutes after post)

He sounds a bit precious and maybe a little too high maintenance for you honey. Getting upset about the celophane and bow? That’s a little unecessary. Ignoring you for a week about it? I’d say a little unstable and definitely not someone who has a genuine interest in you or pursuing a meaningful relationshp with you.

Sorry honey, but he sounds a bit too highly strung; I’d say let him go.

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ConsueloOwners offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (7 hours, 7 minutes after post)

His lost

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linuxya offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (18 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Dump him.

He’s a whiny perfectionist and needs to grow up.

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