friends help: why does a women i know stay with a bloke who hits her,take drugs, - Help.com

fear of what he might do if she left. that is the usual cause.

If he was like this when she started being with him and she knew it, then it is either because of the challenge of changing him or because she does not feel she deserves to be treated well. If not, it is because she formed a mental image of him, and when he changed or she noticed things she did notice before, she couldn’t reconcile them with her image of him. This is why she would keep leaving him and taking him back, because at a certain point she can’t ignore the behavior, but she still has her image of him and so is willing to take him back in the hopes that he will be as she remembers him.

Some people just don’t realize that there’s anything better out there. Until you’ve experienced something better, you get trapped into thinking that your past experiences represent the sum total of reality.

Maybe there is more to the picture… just a thought - maybe there is some secret dependency you dont see. I would say that for a man like that he probably uses drugs and your friend might have become addicted to drugs too.

In other cases, the person in question has some sort of instability in her life. Something is preventing her from making the right decision. Maybe its confusion if her love life went wrong, or maybe just the suffering has gone to her head.