The difference between male and female advice makes me chuckle.
So uh, regarding my problem, I’ve asked people of both genders.
Not surprisingly the answers were quite very different.
The guys advised me to turn my back, stop talking her, treat her like crap, and generally treat her like I would any girl. I got rejected, they said, so try another gal. Many in the world after all. And by all means, do not treat her like a princess and suck up to her.
I understood the logic behind that last bit, but the first part begs for explanation for how girls can take that in the face and still find guys.
So I went to a couple girls who were good friends of mines. The advice was quite different. They advised me to ask her where I currently stand with her, so I could stop questioning myself and doubting myself. A mutual friend between us assured me that it would obviously be awkward, but it would be over. I would know how she felt about me, and if there is a chance, I would have grabbed it.
The guys blew up at that suggestion. They told me that I could go do that and make a fool of myself, and screw myself utterly. So many girls out there, and you waste your time on one? They told me that the more you give a “don’t care about anything” attitude, the more girls will flock to you.
Alright, so both sides have pretty valid points, so I’m back to step one.
I want to stop doubting myself, because like it or not, it’s interfering with my school work.
Yet, to stop doubting myself, I have to make a fool out of myself.
But then, I’m a senior who is about to graduate, so should it matter?
I don’t know. What do?
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