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A bloke asked me out last november, and I said no.

He seemed serious, but I hadn’t known him for that long, so I dunno how big a deal it was. (He actually said “will you go out with me” out of the blue lol, like a school kid)(we’re 21)
Aaaanyway, generally I avoid him now to avoid awkwardness, but I know it’s silly and childish of me-
So what I want to know is:
what are the chances he still likes me?
(my crushes are incredibly short- 10days tops! So I’m not sure how long ‘normal’ attractions last, lol)
Help?

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LogansGir offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Well i would say if he asked you straight out then i think he would probavly still have feelings for him, would you go ut with him if you knoew he wasn’t joking?

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elatenradiate offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Are you still interested in him? I am just wondering why you want to know if he still likes you, if you are no longer interested in him.

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jennie_anderso offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I don’t think he was joking, but I just don’t know how serious he was either (I haven’t been asked out much, lol, so I don’t know how to judge)
I don’t fancy him, the reason I want to know is that I feel uncomfortable around guys who like me but I don’t like them back. I don’t know why, but I ‘read into’ things, and get flustered and self-conscious. That’s why I’ve been avoiding him, but it would be nice to hang out with him and his friends (who are also my firends) if I thought everything was ‘normal’ again.
What d’you think?

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Fionna offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (17 minutes after post)

What kind of feeling do you get from him right now? Have you had any interactions lately?

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jennie_anderso offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (25 minutes after post)

The last couple of times I’ve seen him he didn’t hang about for long. He just said hi, and talked to me a bit in a ‘group’ conversation, and then left. Could be coz he’s not bothered any more, or coz he’s embarrassed- I don’t know. It did seem a bit awkward, but that could have just been me being self-conscious as usual.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Treat him like everybody else for god’s sake or he’ll think you’ve got something against him. There’s no way to know whether a girl likes a fellah until he takes a chance and she says yes or no. Don’t punish him for taking the chance. Be honest, and be cool.

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jennie_anderso offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (37 minutes after post)

Ok, I’ll try. It’s just this is new territory for me, and coz most other people my age have been here lots of times before, I don’t want to make a fool of myself. But I can see what you mean, so I’ll try. Thanks x

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