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I have a 6yo niece.
She’s a happy kid, but things could be a lot better for her. She never gets a real break from home and is always pestered by her 4yo brother (sometimes he can be mean to her, hitting her without being disciplined - I’ve even witnessed my niece get punished even though it was him who hit her). So I’ve asked on here of some fun “girly” things that her and I can do, just the two of us.
I want to do something really fun, surely we’ll do fun things at home, watching movies, baking, crafts (she loves crafts), but I figure that I would have her come spend the night so that the next day we could go out, be it a park or store or some attraction, whatever we decide.
The problem though, is even if I said to her parents that we’re doing a girly thing, they won’t allow her to come spend the night without her brother spending the night too. Him (my nephew) and I do not get along the best. He can and is ignorant, has a “potty mouth” and can be mean to both his sister and even myself, doing anything he can to get a rise out of me.
Now I’ve tried doing things with just him (while my niece is at school) and it’s never ended well. I’ve taken him to stores and parks and it turns into a scream fest or he’ll start acting up and it causes me to be embarrassed and we have to leave or, because he is still in diapers (even though he is four), he’ll have an accident and because I don’t drive, it makes very hard in getting home with a child soaked in pee or worse. I’ve tried to sit and color with him, play on the computer, all kinds of stuff but he does not want to listen to me and just laughs at me when I try to correct him (note* I’ve never smacked him nor have I ever yelled at him).
So honestly, I don’t want him to spend the night nor does my niece because any other time that they have spent the night, she says to me “I wish [brother] didn’t have to come” because he acts the same here as he does at home and will annoy her by any means. Heck, he’s even asked to go home while here for the night. I know he acts the way he does because he gets away with it at home, but he knows better, he just doesn’t care. And yeah, I’m sure he would feel left out but unless he starts to behave, why should I have to deal with it? And they [parents] think that I favor my niece, well yeah, she’s not ignorant with me, doesn’t make a fuss when I say “no” - even when she was his age, she did not act like this. And if I do for her (such as buy something) I always find something to bring home to him, be it a toy or passing by McDonald’s.
So, any ideas on how I could convince them to let my niece come spend the night, without her brother? It’s not that he never gets to come stay (every other time it’s always been both of them), it’s just this time, I’d like it to be just my niece.
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