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This relationship is starting to feel like a very bad idea.

My best friend and I started going out this year and it was great at first.. but lately I keep noticing all these things that don’t seem right. For starters she doesn’t really want all her Facebook friends or whatever finding out she is in a relationship with me because I’m a girl, and if she does tell people she doesn’t seem comfortable with them telling other people. Then there’s all these differences I’ve noticed between us.. we don’t have an awful lot in common! I love music she doesn’t ever really listen too it, she’s a focused academic while I’m an academic student too I don’t love my studies the way she does. There’s other things I’ve noticed I just can’t remember them right now! Then there is the way when I talk to her on facebook or whatever the way she talks to me it’s like we are still friends and when we’re together she talks to me like were friends, she still sometimes calls me bud! or dude! and I’m bit like eh not really working..
It’s starting to feel to me like were friends with benefits even though she tells me she loves me.. though I don’t think she has ever said it to me in more serious circumstances.

But I feel like I can’t tell her any of this because if I do can we go back to being friends? Also I’ll look like a total b***h she told all her family she was bisexual it took her a lot of guts to tell her friends and I kinda feel like I can’t turn around and go..oh sorry not feeling it! Not to mention she was my first and I was hers. but shes leaving for uni in like seven months should I carry it on til then? I have no idea what I should do! :/

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1 year, 2 months ago (29 minutes after post)

That’s a tough situation. Maybe try and talk about it with her, say that you sometimes dont feel as if the two of you are in a real relationship and that it just seems physical and that’s not what you want. Maybe she doesn’t realize she’s doing this or maybe she’s also feeling a bit like you and wants to go back to being just friends.

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